does asperger's get better as you get older?

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Well since we learn social skills over time from exposure, thsoe issues lessen, and since we can enjoy thyings for longer than our non-aspergian counterparts, we're also far more likely to be happy in the long-term.

I am a lot more confident nowadays when it comes to talking to other people.

I have to say that i talk like a funny person or a guider. one girl i asked that is aspergerian as well

told me i was awkward with my talking. i think

she mean't i was going to quick with my talking. yeah that's it i was talking way to fast like a motor

mouth. but i can't help it, well i can but it's hard to since i am used to it. my mom keeps saying that

i have a quarter stuck in my head. like a broken record. it's really funny actually.

It seems to get a bit easier I think. As opposed to my past I would say yes.

How do you know that someone is an aspie or not with the scores? seems some people on here

are doing that. can you explain?

I feel like as I got older it was only from the forced experiences I had to endure that kind of made it almost routine-like. Although it still gets SO awkward when people are looking at me laughing about something they thought was funny that just didnt do it for me. It always ends up with
Check phone, play with fingers, look at ground, half smile.

When you're over-friendly like most Aspies get, it makes people sick of you and like they can't talk to you.

Nope, as a matter of fact, I seem to be getting more dysfunctional/useless as I get older.

Yes and no. My social skills have definitely improved from exposure and life experience but I feel the complexity of adult socialization/day to day life/organizational skills are being thrown at me faster than I can handle them and make my difficulties much more apparent than they were when I was a kid.

For me everything gets easier emotionally with age. There is no need to fit in after a certain point.

i did rather well… but then it all collapsed again after 40 years… i just burned out pretending and trying.

so did most aspies i know that passed that magic age of doom…

I grow more anxious and angry as the days go by

^ This, 100%

I think it does.......to some degree. Going by personal experience, I've gotten better with making eye contact, interacting with people, .....etc.

Could you say more about this aspi-rant? I'm over 40 as well and although I feel better and more intuitive in myself, the people around me seem less open to socialising than before. Or to put it another way, when I was young I was really messed up, but I had friends. Now I am much better - kinder, more accepting, less stubborn, less intellectual, more social skills, less strange, but I only have acquaintances. For one thing, everyone in my age group is busy with family - they have more demands on their time and less energy. I find my own chores very demanding too, and I don't have the energy to go out as much.

In elementary school, I had an extremely difficult time. Most days, I spoke no more than a few words and literally had zero friends. I did far better in highschool and college because there were nerdy clubs and activities to engage in.

The older I get the harder it gets because where I live the only social activities seem to involve religion and bars, both of which fill me with a certain dread. When I was in my mid-20's, if people asked if I were married or dating, I could say I just hadn't found anyone yet -- fairly accurate in and of itself. In my late 30's, that answer seems rather strained.