Am I invisible or do people genuinely not see/hear me?

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It's true Lene that it is normal that sometimes other people do not see us, because they are focused on something. If we want everybody to listen to us, we may thus be disappointed. But if this happens very often, there is something else going on, like I explained in my previous message, or maybe even some other explanation.

People don't see you because they don't see you ? We are going around a circle, no ?

Sometimes I feel invisible even on WP.

When you don't get an answer ?

About the tone of the voice, here is a video on the halo effect. Here you can see a big difference in the effect on other people, using the same words, but with a different tone and a different body language :

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuometYfMTk[/youtube]

Well maybe that explains it...I mean, I do speak in a largely monotone voice.

...To be honest though, I don't think the 'halo effect' necessarily always applies; I know a lot of people that do listen to me, regardless of my tone of voice.

well, that video did one thing: it showed me my lack of social understanding.
i watched it 3 times to make sure, but i didn't see any difference between the two halves of the experiment, none whatsoever...

You can better see the difference at 8:36 when you get the first version then the second version of the beggining of the interview.

first one : he smiles (his eyes show a realy smile, not only the mouth) and put his elbows forward. he puts warmth about what the interview even saying "stupid video".

second one : he doesn't really smile, he's face is rather neutral, and he doesn't move his body forward at all. he seems sad or anxious about the "stupid video".