Anyone feel lonely for years??

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Yeah, I've been (and am) way too alone and lonely. Fairly recently I did some objective analysis of my stats ... and ... they highly suck. E.g. in about the past 28 years, in terms of good close friends and/or relationships - I've gained two such people. So, ... that's average of less than one new quite good friend or relationship, per decade. Way too low a rate.

So, ... yeah, not sure exactly how, but seems I quite/rather blow it - or miss it or miss out, or whatever. Sure, I get out, I socialize, I interact (not that I'm all that keen on it, but I do). But, ... as far as making "meaningful connections" - mostly just does not happen for me. "finding people genuinely interested in hanging out with you" - I've no clue how to do that - or maybe I fail to see it when it stares me in the face ... not sure. "Oh well" - at least more recently I've rather/quite realized it's definitely a problem for me, ... and ... at least starting to work on it (recognizing it's a problem is always a useful first step).

I never had RL friends but I only felt "lonely" during my worst stage of teenage angst when I was 17. Then I realized it's, well, just teenage angst and being lonely is mighty fine, indeed.
Not being lonely is overrated.

I have pretty much the exact same problem. I'm "too weird" for anyone, even aspies. It sucks. Loneliness is a terrible thing.

I'm too normal for most of the aspies I know in real life to tolerate, and too weird for the people deemed to be normal.
It sucks.

I was suicidal once when I was 8. I've found since then that no matter how bad it gets, I cannot feel completely miserable for more than about a month before something snaps. When something snaps, something changes in me so that I don't want the thing that not having made me sad before. I don't know if this is a weakness or a strength, but I'm not going to commit suicide because my perception of it will always get better, even if the situation doesn't. But if your life really stays miserable all the time, and you don't know how it could get better (and you've sincerely tried), I don't see why it's such a bad thing to kill yourself. We're all just animals and it won't make any difference in the long run.

I know what loneliness feels like, but I had it for so long that something snapped, so now I don't care if I don't have friends anymore. I can get them sometimes, and I've even had an emotionally satisfying relationship once, but I don't feel bad anymore when I don't have them.

Fake it till you make it, Or atleast thats what I'm doing. I keep convincing myself, that I do Infact have a likeable personality that people will want a part of. Sometimes you have to hobble along using a crutch and then when you are fully recoverd socially, you can begin to walk again.

I don't get it. If it's such a problem, why do you want to be socially competent?

I'm always wishywashy about wanting friends, I supose if you dont want them, then it isnt a problem. at times I do wish i could go rock hounding with someone, maybe. I guess this why it is so easy for me to play trickery on my obvious lack of friendship

I always feel lonely. Probably because I have never had anyone love me - and that includes "family". I don't count someone as family just because you grew up around them. It can't count if they always hurt you. All I've truly ever wanted in life was one person who cared for me in that way - I don't necessarily mean relationship, as I don't see that happening ever with me. I just mean in general. Oh well, no need to worry

Don't try to kill yourself!
A wise man once said "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."

I was once suicidal myself, every once in a while I thikn about what peace I would have if I died. NONE, it would just make matters worse.

The best thing to do is HOLD ON!

The more you wait the sweeter it will be once you find a TRUE friend and companion and even a girlfriend.