Yeah making friends in general for an aspie can be very hard. When I came to college I was pretty lucky looking back on things. I met someone who I hit it off with instantly and we were close friends real fast. I used him for my social life for the first 2 yrs of college heavily. I had problems making friends with other people heavily freshman yr. I didnt really start to befriend his friends till the end of freshmen yr even tho I saw them so often. Even tho were no longer friends mostly in part due to my excessive clingyness/being annoying. He sorta started that branch of contacts that I had throughout all of college. Even tho I went off to hanging out with new people Jr yr, a few of those people were acquaintances of mine soph yr and they were friends of a couple of our friends.
I rarely make friends strictly thru activities and classes. In my entire college experience, Ive only made 1 friend thru a class and he was a transfer student so he was kinda looking for friends. Living in the dorm does help in general not just due to forced contact amongst your dormmates but if you live on campus, its easier to hangout with people. Hanging out in peoples rooms, spontaneous get togethers, doing hw together, eating meals together. When you live offcampus and your gonna meet up with friends, things are a bit more planned and you dont see people in general nearly as much. Plus with more arranged contact, it seems you already need to have kinda an established connection. Whereas living on campus, u see someone ur acquainted with in the cafeteria, you can just sit with them and eat a meal. Hanging out with people ur getting to know can happen more easily.
12 Mar 2007, 1:49 pm
