What makes you uncomfortable around someone?

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Two related characteristics make the the most uncomfortable. Arrogance, because I don't know how to respond when people's only point seems to be "see how awesome I am?" and I'm not a fangirl; and being a know-it-all, because I like to be able state my own opinion or knowledge when I think someone's wrong, without challenging their ego.

When they're staring at me, staring into my eyes, and I'm not sure why. A woman did this to me yesterday. Half the time when I was within distance, I caught her staring right at me. Very odd.

People that talk loud and make all kinds of annoying noises.
People that talk about stupid s**t.
People that have annoying laughs, generally people who laugh too often or about things that aren't funny.
People (women, mostly) who think they're so goddamn great and beautiful that everybody should pay attention to them.
People who ALWAYS want to talk about something. Just shut up for 5 minutes.

Great.

I hadn't felt suicidal for a couple months, but now I do again.

EDIT: What I mean is, I'm "pathetic", and at the same time I understand the OP's feelings of discomfort. Just reflecting on the fact that I'm probably more disliked because I'm suffering from being disliked...

My psychologist told me what I've been feeling around people is dissociation. I sort of space out too much and don't want to listen to what they have to say all that much. I'm thinking that is the most plausible explanation because I was very attentive as a child.

I generally cannot be around anyone when they are drinking or are intoxicated. It just makes me uneasy, to the point where I cannot even go to a bar. This can be a real problem, as like 99% of the people I interact with on a daily basis seem to think that consuming toxins is nesissary for all social events, making me feel even more excluded than I usually do.

Gossipy hens.... "My mother inlaw"

Shes an okay enough person but I cant stand people who have to tell everyone about what everyone is doing if you want to be talked about or not......it super freaks me out 0_o

I said this on another thread, at my age I don't know anymore if nowadays I'm rejected for my aspie traits or for the personality I have developed after a lifetime of massive rejection and/or poisonous treatment from everyone. The latter would, in itself, cause a person to appear weird and unlikable. The social self-confidence of a leaf in the wind (trying too hard, being over-polite, appeasing and appeasing constantly, apologizing too much, minimizing one's hurt, smiling in spite of huge emotional pain, taking too much responsibility for others' cruelty to self, etc.) in itself alone is enough to make a person highly unappealing and their presence uncomfortable. Besides, if one's constantly being swatted on the head (figuratively, I mean), then one's head doesn't function as well as it should in the long run.

On a selfish note, I hope you're not feeling suicidal anymore, because such interesting people as yourself are too few and far between, even on WP.

Urgh. Yes, this. The best way to make me uncomfortable - just stare at me too much.

Anyone showing extreme emotions.

Extremely happy, extremely sad, extremely angry etc

Just to be clear, I'm talking a situation where the person is not doing anything harmful to themselves or others, just being a bit extreme.

I hasten to add I think it can be ok to display extreme emotions sometimes, this is definitely my problem more than person doing this, this behaviour just rocks my comfort zone.

Probably cos I don't know how to respond; I can find it difficult to recognise the difference between extreme sadness, anger and joy sometimes - it can be confusing, and I don't like being 'out of control' myself.

I've gotten bad vibes from people before for no reason I could put my finger on, and they turned out to be on target--one guy had a coke habit and was robbing stores, another was looking at porn on other people's computers at work (he's the reason I can't post pictures ). But there's been lots of times when I haven't sensed anything at all about a person and they've been very bad to be around.

But as far as people just making me uncomfortable, I suppose it's those who are used to having normal conversations, who say something and then look at me expectantly, like they're waiting for a reply, while I'm still processing what they said to me.

Or people who talk about all the wonderful things they're going to do, like have their photos printed on canvas or buy the newest gadget or go on some great trip. They're not meaning to boast, as such things are just part of their normal lives, but it makes me so sad. I would love to do those things. I always smile and tell them that it's great, have fun, that's so nice, because I don't want to rain on their parade, but just for once, I'd like a parade too.

Mindsigh, when I was your age I took a realistic look at my life and understood that it was too late for anything like "great trips" (my favorite hobby). I was unemployed, penniless, no friends and no family. And no possibility of even looking for a job because of the bad economy and my autism. I decided it was time to put an end to a meaningless future. It was just the realistic thing to do, having calculated absolutely all my circumstances and odds. I'm a very logical, realistic person, so I knew I was right. Then a couple days later the phone rang. Three months later and for 2 years, I was traveling the world, staying at 5-star hotels and eating at the best restaurants, cruising down the rivers and visiting the castles and capital cities I was sure I'd never see. An employer had decided that I was the specific person they wanted for that specific job, and my life changed overnight. I became the one envied by those I had envied. I've learned that you can never, never know. The best is to note down the details they tell about their purchases / trips and keep them for when your turn comes.

I'm uncomfortable with myself. I'm usually good at keeping this to myself though.

Aw, thanks.

I'm alright. It just seems incredibly unfair, although I personally am more likely to go to the opposite extreme: being suspicious, confrontational, etc. as a result of past mistreatment, or at least to swing back and forth between the two extremes. It's a depressing thought that the more you try, the worse things get, but it can be true.

I'm uncomfortable around people that blush easily. I always think they are thinking of something nasty when they do, wich in turn makes me blush. its contagious I tell you!

quite simply, loud people and touchy people. I especially hate when one loud touchy person encounters another and then they try to one up each other on loudness while reaching out randomly to touch you as if to include you in the cacophony.