If an aspie does not like someone, how will they express it?

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So you/we don't all stab people you don't like to death and bury them in woods after months of stalking and careful planning?

How very interesting.



Just kidding of course... my crazy post of the day, which I felt was so harsh I had to add this line.






It's not interesting at all, I've known this for years

I recently had an interaction with my daughters family where I met her aunts boyfriend for the first time. He's a rather rough looking country fellow that i would never normally interact with by choice. He was however wearing a shirt that I had a fondness for which I expressed to him by saying "That's a really cool shirt, I dislike you less now". Her family has been ranting about how horrible a thing that is to say and I can't wrap my head around being honest, especially to convey a growing fondness, could be bad.

It depends on why I don't like someone. Some people I will just avoid as much as possible. However, the people I have a strong dislike for because of their attitude or how they treat me or others I will go out of my way to use proper speech to talk down to. This is especially true if they are condescending to me first or like to wallow in their own ignorance and hatred. I'll also go hardcore monotone on them and make darn sure that I do not laugh at their jokes. This usually makes them feel uncomfortable and they then leave me alone.

Usually I just use my body language and tone of voice. Make basic eye contact with the person with an annoyed and uninterested expression on my face, periodically look around and play with my phone. If it's somebody I really don't like or is just being a pain, one of my favorite tactics is to put my sunglasses on and look away from them to deliberately show them I'm barely even giving them my attention, same body language and tone of voice as before. If it's somebody I absolutely cannot stand, chances are I'll be straight up with them.

I was introduced to a loud and obnoxious person yesterday. She was also complaining about something when she had no reason to do so whatseover. I didn't speak to her unless she asked a question. After five minutes of hearing her talk, I simply walked back into my house and made dinner. She indicated that she saw an "unimpressed" look on my face. I guess I gave away that I did not like her.

Hah, Well I'm sure we've all met a person before and for whatever reason in your mind you tell yourself "I... just don't like you" without reason or justification you can meet someone and just not like them. Everyone needs someone to hate at some-point in their life.

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I dislike only a couple people, but the one's I do I simply ignore, avoid, and don't talk to.

I would avoid them as much as possible

There is no reason for people not to like me, but if somebody does decide that they hate me for whatever reason, then they don't usually show it, although I can still tell that they don't like me from the way they speak happily to everyone else but speak unpleasently to me, like they are disrespecting me because they can't be bothered to get to know me or to like me.

So the same goes for me with other people, I suppose. If I don't like someone, I don't just go right up to them and tell them ''I don't like you.'' I try not to show it either, but whether they can pick up on it or not is a different matter, because if I don't like somebody then I don't care if they don't like me back. I still wouldn't be nasty though. I would be civil if they bother to be civil to me, and I wouldn't speak to them in an inappropriate way. That is not my nature, even if somebody was being very nasty to me.

I'm not the sort to aggravate. I don't like falling out with people and I can't stand hostility, especially if it's at work and I've got to work with the people. It's just not worth it. I can usually get on with everybody. Sometimes I feel guilty when I don't like somebody. I've often told myself that I don't like somebody, then when they next speak to me I say to myself ''oh they're all right actually.'' Guilt gets the better of me all the time!

I express it by ignoring and avoiding people I don't like, and, depending on my mood, if I'm in a bad mood and they just try to talk to me I can react really violently and say that I don't want to talk to them for the rest of my whole life. This happened a few times, not much.

I usually don't express it. You'll never know.

I'd just completely ignore them. Actually, I dislike the girl I have to work with in History class, and I give her the wrong answers for essays!

I say it outright. My experience is that most NTs just ignore someone they dislike and that is the worst reaction I experience from someone (much better they say it out and give a reason for it, then just disappear), so I won't use the same reaction myself since I know how much it can hurt.