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28 Oct 2012, 11:04 am

No not really.



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28 Oct 2012, 11:27 am

I like Christmas, but only because of the food and presents; I hate the meeting of the family. As for all other celebrations, no I hate them with the worst being bonfire night



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29 Oct 2012, 11:30 am

I dislike any form of celebration, especially my own birthday.



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30 Oct 2012, 1:42 pm

Yes, I love them. I just don't like how commercialism and businesses blow them out of proportion. Christmas for example, it's so beautiful until it becomes this annoying trash ruins it



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30 Oct 2012, 1:44 pm

I really enjoy celebrations, though I would have answered differently 10 years ago, when I actively avoided socialization of any kind.


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23 Nov 2012, 4:13 am

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I always like the idea of them but I usually come home afterwards feeling really bad when I've been unable to talk with people properly.


That's something that I would feel once a while. I would go to a celebration of some sort thinking that maybe this time it would be nice but then I always come home regretting it and feeling mad at myself for being so naive. If the majority of the people are people that I'm not very close with then I always either sit or stand in one place and feel miserable... :(


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23 Nov 2012, 4:18 am

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Christmas is the worst one. It feels like such a suffocating holiday to me. There is just more everything and it's so in your face that you can't escape it. I don't particularly like getting presents, because I'm ever sure how to react when I get them. Especially if it's something I really wanted or they put a lot of thought into it, the emotion is overwhelming and it usually expresses itself as tears and I refuse to cry in front of anyone.

I don't particularly like my Birthday either. Mainly for two reasons. One, I have no choice but to be the centre of attention, which I loathe. Two, it reminds me of how old I am and how there are all these things which I've dreamed of or wanted to achieve and how I haven't done them yet. It makes me feel like I'm a failure, or it's too late or I'm running out of time.

I'd much prefer celebrations when I can be a quiet observer and retreat for alone time when I need it.


That's how I feel! Especially when I get gifts, I always say thank you but I feel very awkward and sometimes I'm worried that I might sound fake or not sincere when I said it. I never cry, though, but it can get quite hard sometimes. Birthdays to me are nothing different than regular days, except that people make it a big deal, and I usually don't know how to react so I just say "thanks" when people say "happy birthday" (especially the excited ones). I'm sure my facial expression looks like I'm not excited. :)


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23 Nov 2012, 4:20 am

Has anyone ever felt exhausted in parties?
I can handle parties at times, but I get very exhausted after an hour or two and what I really want is just go home and be in my own shell (the thought always warms me up).


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23 Nov 2012, 5:19 am

Salvatore wrote:
Has anyone ever felt exhausted in parties?
I can handle parties at times, but I get very exhausted after an hour or two and what I really want is just go home and be in my own shell (the thought always warms me up).

Depends on the kind of the party. If it's a party with lots of people and I hardly know anybody, I usually don't come at all.

Now that I live alone, I do however feel the need to be with other people, hear human voices, etc. So even if I expect the party to be boring, I sometimes show up just to satisfy this need.
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23 Nov 2012, 9:16 am

MjrMajorMajor wrote:
Small celebrations (such as with immediate family) can be a lot of fun. When it's time to cram fifty people into a living room for Christmas, that does get overwhelming. It's nice to break away from the humdrum day to day sometimes.


This is exactly why I don't go to family gatherings such as at Christmas. There are way too many people, and a lot of kids. It's sensory-overload city for me.



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29 Nov 2012, 12:12 am

I avoid them at all costs, but still manage to get suckered into it every once in a while.

Aside from the previously mentioned reasons for disliking them (with which I whole-heartedly agree,) I personally do not choose to celebrate major holidays (as they make absolutely no sense to me,) and I dislike the amount and types of food typically served.

I'm highly allergic to gluten, and began my gluten-free diet about four years ago. No one in my family understood how to handle it other than to continue cooking as they usually did. So, I was adding the stress of not being able to eat anything (when even the salad had dressing with gluten in it mixed in) and deal with the social anxiety of being "the only one not eating."

Since then, my nephew has also been placed on the same diet, so maybe I'll be able to quit making my own dinners and taking them to family get-togethers.

AS was a recent discovery for me, and my family has suddenly become more receptive to my need for space and low-stimuli; I wonder how the normally abysmal holiday season will treat me this year.


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30 Nov 2012, 1:15 pm

I don't mind birthday parties for my friends' kids because they are short and the kids provide the entertainment, I do not have to be "on" and interacting with others too much. I do not like birthday parties for adults; if they are at someone's home or a bar they basically just become a loud, drunken mess and if they are at a restaurant it is usually way more expensive than I would like and everyone dithers about after eating "chatting" and since it is a large group the conversation is very rarely that substantial or beyond idle chitchat. I also hate to buy birthday presents for adults; my friends can all afford to buy the things they need and many of the things they want so it is hard to figure out what to get them while staying within my budget. I beg people to not buy me birthday presents as it fills my apartment with more stuff I don't need and makes me feel obligated to then buy something for them on their birthday. When money allows, I leave town on my birthday to either visit a friend or family member or just explore a new city by myself. I love it and prefer it to trying to host a party or arrange an outing for friends and family. I have thrown my own birthday parties a few times and it felt awkward, I spent the whole night worrying over who would get along, if there was enough ice, cleaning up after people and being questioned in my own home. Next year I am definintely leaving town. I take advantage of having friends who go home for major holidays and need pet sitters to make some extra money and avoid family gatherings. I would rather see family a bit at a time on my own terms.



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17 Dec 2012, 3:10 pm

Depends on the people you are with. Your real friends are mostly able to overlook your social deficits.

But I general, I kinda like social events. It only depends what kind. If it´s too noisy, I have to leave early.


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19 Dec 2012, 1:02 am

I like small gatherings of 20-30 people, but big events such as wedding receptions or nightclubs tend to freak me out



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20 Dec 2012, 1:51 pm

i love celebrations, they are fun and festive. just so long as they don't involve balloons.



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20 Dec 2012, 3:55 pm

Stargazinglette wrote:
i love celebrations, they are fun and festive. just so long as they don't involve balloons.


Why balloons?


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