Most people are not worth talking to.

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I usually enjoy shooting the shinola with strangers. If I'm stuck beside them for a while, and we are chatting, I can usually find something to talk about with them that we have in common. Even if I have nothing in common with the person, we may share an opinion or preference. It can be pretty fun unless I'm in a bad mood, then I'm testy as can be.

The OP would hate living in this town if he hates talking to customers at the grocery store he works at. It's expected and actually enjoyed by most people. Occasionally they hire a rude high school girl who just stares at you like she wants to swat you with a magazine, but they don't last long there. Most people here were raised here (None of my family was) and so they were brought up that you have to "stop and speak" because it's just what you do. There is no real reason for it. Being polite without having a heart to heart talk with someone you don't even know well isn't rude, but it's perceived as rude here. And being polite is one of the most important things to these folks.

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A lot of us can be frustrated at times by small-talk but it's an essential part of how we communicate with people, especially people we do not know. It's an ice-breaker, a way of establishing a temporary rapport with guys like you -- the store clerk. I know from my own experience that it can be frustrating at times but try as hard as you can to be patient with people, try and develop an interest in what they are saying no matter how mundane or trivial it might appear to you.

For some people in society, especially senior citizens and people who live alone, making small-talk with a store clerk is their only opportunity to have social contact and that means that you have an important role to fulfill in society. If you smile at that person and take the time to share small-talk with them, you could end making a world of difference to someone who might be very lonely! Try and remember that they're not doing it to annoy you or to use up your time, they're just communicating with you.

Not only that, even if you attempt to chit chat, most NTs I have met are HORRIBLE BULLIES...they social exclude anyone that doesn't do as they do. Right now I am ready to tell all my neighbors to f#$%ck themselves. One particular nasty woman, who by the way was a neighbor of mine before, she WANTS to be a lawyer, but she's a NOBODY right now. She has literally befriended every lawyer where we live and found her click...of course, that even includes one ahole who is not a lawyer but loves lawyers because as far as I AM CONCERNED and a few others here, he is a PERVERT and a PEDOPHILE. But needless to say, he is nice to lawyers just in case he needs one.

These people constantly have get togethers and exclude anyone that doesn't fit into their little group. It is truly pathetic. Funny thing is, she is of a different race. When we were neighbors before, she CLAIMED that people excluded her there because she was a of a different race...uhmmm...no, didn't ever hear a neighbor not invite her to parties, etc...but well, anyway, there you go.

Yes, I think most of the NTs suck. I can't stand most of them anymore. I am so freaking tired of having to change for NTs, when most are absolutely worthless anyway.

People are boring if they do not have interests in common with you. In fact, life itself is boring if you cannot find something interesting to do. The only reason I am partially interested in having a friend/girlfriend (I say partially because my interest in it seems to increase/decrease every few weeks; currently it is almost nonexistant) is to get over the chronic boredom I have: maybe they could give me ideas of things to do.

If I had money and free time, I would most likely isolate myself from society and spend my time adventuring around the world. There is nothing else I can think of to make me truly satisfied.

People in general are extremely boring. All of the people I talk to are there for useful reasons. Interests are the only way to truly bond with someone for me...most people use sex for that.

Yes!! ! Most people are PAINFULLY boring to listen to, and I try to leave the conversation as soon as I can.

I work in a University as an IT tech support for the moment.
I sometimes wish that I was "normal"
But then I overhear the stupidest s**t and the most boring chatter ever that makes me cringe when I visit the cafeteria.
I wish I'll never become "normal"

If you view small talk as a game or logical puzzle, it is sophisticated and difficult. That can make it engaging.

Pretty much. I hate trying to talk just to get some conversation going...but I have to do it because I want to talk sometimes (not about anything in particular, but about things the person I am talking to is interested in).

I can't seem to find any decent conversation these days...even talking about games becomes boring with me...especially if you try and talk to it with a fellow Aspie.

There are days when small talk is outright painful for me. Those are the days I hide in my cube at work, eat lunch late to avoid anyone in the kitchen and take a different bus to lessen the chances of someone I work with being on it. I am very fortunate to live alone so once I am home I am safe and can putter about without having to worry about anyone springing conversation on me. I wish there was someway I could let people know that while I have nothing against them, wish no harm upon them and want them to be happy I also do not want to have to talk to them. It just isn't worth the stress for people I do not want to form friendships with.