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auntblabby
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13 Jan 2013, 4:32 am

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13 Jan 2013, 4:47 am

When asked, I just make a big deal about how great it will be to veg out on the couch watching movies and doing nothing. Because, it's none of their business AND there's nothing wrong with doing nothing. Screw them and their expectations of "busy-ness" and "constructive use of time".
It's my brain and I'll subject it to reality-TV-rot if I want to.
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13 Jan 2013, 4:56 am

The same thing I do every weekend - try to take over the world!



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13 Jan 2013, 8:06 am

it just chit chat. my usual reply i had a quiet weekend or if i did go out then that.



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13 Jan 2013, 8:17 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
It's perfectly fine not to have plans. Say something like "Nah, just chillin', how about you?" It's really just a small talk thing to open a conversation or keep one going.

One thing it may be sometimes though, is a lead up to asking you somewhere. They may ask if you have plans because they want to invite you to something with them.

I'd say just keep it casual when you answer. Lots of people, even very popular people, don't make plans until near about the last minute, so don't worry about seemng like you don't have a social life when you say you don't have plans.

Or you can say something like "Not yet, what are you doing?" to put the ball back in their court and also give them an opening to invite you if they want to.


I think OliveOilMom's post is good practical advice, but I still think the question puts pressure on you to have fun plans and I resent that a little. Often I'll have plans, but they're not "fun" plans. More to the point, they're not plans I want to share with people. So I'm stuck for a response - I don't want to talk about my plans, but it also wouldn't be true to say "no, just relaxing".