nurseangela wrote:
Bataar wrote:
My disdain for small talk is ultimately what keeps me friendless and alone. I just hate small talk that much. I like having friends and interacting with friends, but the process of getting from stranger to friend is so tedious I generally avoid it. For me, talking is about the exchange of useful/relevant/interesting information. If I don't know a person, I can't have a conversation with them because I don't know enough about them to have a conversation that meets that criteria. I've been told to ask someone about their job as I guess that's a common small talk topic. My reaction is (again, this is assuming the person is a complete stranger to me) why would I want to know about their job? Assuming I never see this person again, what use will that information be to me later on?
Question.
How often do you have useful/relevant/interesting information to tell someone? And what kind of information is it (example)?
Not very often, but that's because I'm not usually around people that much. A lot of people probably assume I'm shy because when I'm in a social setting, I don't talk very much. However, I don't consider myself shy at all. I just have to have a reason to talk to said person. I either have to want to tell them something I think they need to know or enjoy or believe they know something I want to know to give me a reason to ask them a question. This obviously makes interacting with people I don't know very difficult because I don't know anything about them. In an ideal world it would be socially acceptable to walk up to someone and ask them if they like X, Y, or Z. If yes, you have something to talk about, if not, you move on. But that's not socially acceptable and you have to beat around the bush so much to try to get a vague understanding if you share common interests that it's just not worth it.
04 Sep 2015, 10:59 am
Along with scratching themselves in weird places.
