Do you think the way NTs socialize is beautiful?

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I wouldnt exactly call it beautiful. But it has a way where it ebbs and flows so me as an aspie doesnt really get it. Socialization for me is a rather jerky, shifty, stop and go, motions. Oh wow, another metaphor for my socialization.

I do see your point of view although I cant feel its beautiful perhaps out of jealousy lol
I think it annoys me, I feel mocked like " hahaha look at US, wd are cool and part of this fun club you cant join!! ! Boy are YOU missing out!! !"
Ahahaha,, its an exaggerated point of view I recognize but I cant help it

Nope. Never. I used to feel this way, but I thought to myself, "If being Neurotypical, and being a part of their social structure is "perfection", then why is conformity valued so much, and why is anyone who doesn't conform viewed as being defficient?"

I see their social order, and quite frankly, it makes me sick. I still often envy their ability to simply speak to people with ease, but being an outsider has opened my eyes to how messed up society and the typical social order is, and I'm great full for that.

Well, I don't view it as 'beautiful', but it might as well be magic to people like me! Honestly, when I've had a bad day, I sometimes found myself wishing I could suck my brain out of my left ear and inject a new one. Never mind, I'm grateful to be in relatiely good mental and physical health.

No. Just very difficult, if not impossible, for me to replicate. And, most of the time, pointless, even though I still wish I was able to understand it.

Quite the opposite, really. It grates on my ears and irritates me terribly. Sometimes when I was I kid and trying to sleep I would faintly hear many voices just babbling like people do when they make small talk and it would drive me up the wall.

I don't

Uhhh, never thought about it that way. The word I would use is "Functional".

I feel the same way! I have never found it anything but annoying. Small talk makes me want to flee the room- the mundane and trivial stuff that they seem to find endlessly fascinating just baffles me to no end. In the few instances that I have attempted to engage in this chatter, I have either put my foot in my mouth or missed a beat or five and they were already on another subject!

Yeah same here although people still expect that of me. My shiftyness is probably somewhat creepy. Oh F U NTs!

Nope. It's always just a reminder of how disconnected I am to the people around me. I've never liked small talk but I have at least gotten better at going along with it when I have to as I've gotten older. Seeing people being legitimately interested in all these mundane topics still perplexes me though. I generally have either a lack of interest or lack of experience with most things people talk about due to my isolated, generally eventless life, so when looking for somewhere to "jump in" I usually come up short.

I was always threatened by it until I had an NT son and can watch him in action. It blows me away how he can talk to anyone about anything and so brilliantly give and receive energy. I always think "Wow, if I could only live my life once again like that"

I think it's beautiful when any people interact well and that includes people who do it it ways besides talking. I've seen that "flow" when people are working together on a project without talking or when people are just enjoying something together, again, without conversation. I don't really envy people who have flowing verbal conversations I just wish I could find more people who are compatible with me in the areas where I communicate well. Having a good social encounter for me is when people do something together, accomplishing something or learning something. I don't want to change myself and I don't think I'm weird, just different. I would like to meet people like me but it's hard to do because many of them (and I) are hiding away at home a lot.

Whenever I'm depressed, I wish I could socialize easily like them. Though it's not beatiful around here!

Certainly not! It's disgusting and uncivilized!

It is idiotic at best.

(1) Shaking hands: I remember I had a cold once, and I sneazed, and (I won't into details here), I had to clean my right hand with my pants. A few minutes later, a teacher I knew shook my hand. Imagine the number of viruses that were passed to him.

(2) Person #1: Hello, how are you. Person #2: I am fine, thank you <----stupid! Most people are not fine. If anything, they are doing okay. Even when they are in trouble, they still say they are fine.

(3) Two people who haven't seen each other in a long time meet in the street, and they talk about their lives, and wow, they are both doing great. What are the odds?

(4) Drink beers, get drunk. People like to call each other stupid, but their idea of socializing is drinking enough alcohol to damage their intelligence.