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27 Apr 2013, 1:37 pm

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Your voice is very pleasant :thumright: It doesn't sound "insecure" as much as "gentle". I think traditional up-talk has a more aggressive commanding tone in addition to going up, which is what makes it come of as a question or asking something of someone.
Thinking about it some more I guess my voice is sing-songy too (though I actually sing things I say on and off but that is reserved to when I'm with close relatives :oops: )
Intonation is a bit of a special interest for me (ever since I was a kid and suddenly heard every girl in my peergroup change the way they spoke and was bewildered) but it took some time to remember what I know.
I've started using up-talk on purpose sometimes since I saw a lecture where the prof used it to see if everyone was following what she said and I thought it was very effective tool to use in communication (since my basic mode of communication is
lecturing :lol:)


Thank you! That's a very kind thing to say. I think my voice sounds pretty bad there though. It doesn't sound aggressive but it's a bit annoying.....I annoy myself. :lol: Interesting you noticed them changing the way they spoke? I remember trying to imitate the voices of the popular girls as a kid but unlike some aspie girls describe I was completely unsuccessful. My voice was too high or strange sounding and my sister would ask me what the hell I was doing.



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27 Apr 2013, 9:44 pm

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Really, the only people in my life who criticizes my intonation are my parents :? It's getting close to a point where I'm not even bothering to monitor it anymore. It took a lot of stress to reach that point from monotone and I already know it's only going to sound close to natural, not pass off as if it is, like they desperately want.
So your parents normalized you...

Daydreamer84, although we had a long conversation about this, the video you posted actually doesn't show your voice as it actually is most of the time, so you should record another one with you talking more and louder and post it here. I do think you have uptalk, but it's not something I haven't heard before, either. I do like your voice, though. I think it's well-articulated and I find your intonation pleasant.


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29 Apr 2013, 2:12 am

Mostly I speak in a monotone. But sometimes my voice goes up slightly at the end of a word, even when I'm not asking a question.



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29 Apr 2013, 3:50 am

I'm not really sure how much I "uptalk" personally, but it's very common in New Zealand and Australia. I don't attach a social meaning to it, since I'm surrounded by all sorts of people who do it. It's possibly more common among young people, though.



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29 Apr 2013, 3:49 pm

Declension wrote:
I'm not really sure how much I "uptalk" personally, but it's very common in New Zealand and Australia. I don't attach a social meaning to it, since I'm surrounded by all sorts of people who do it. It's possibly more common among young people, though.


Yeah, I know it's common in Australia and New Zealand. Actually some people refer to it as "Australian question inflection" online.



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29 Apr 2013, 3:51 pm

Mathgirl-I know my voice is too quiet in it...I normally speak really loudly. I've tried to re-record but I can't get it loud enough-my webcam mike is probably really crappy.



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03 May 2013, 10:26 pm

I talk in a husky way (I'm too embarrassed to share a video here) and I also talk way too fast sometimes to the point where my words are mumbled and no one can understand me. I also have a tendency to talk loudly or to talk way too quiet. I think my issues come from the fact that I had multiple ear infections as a child and I was deaf in one ear due to fluid blockage and they had to put a tube in that ear. I was in speech therapy for about two and a half years because of it.

The psychologist I spoke to when I was diagnosed with NLD told me that I had a slushy sounding voice like his daughter and I honestly don't hear it when I hear myself speak on audio/video devices. The monotone/sing-songy voice issues you're talking about is very common with NLD but I'm not sure about AS.


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04 May 2013, 8:15 am

RaspberryFrosty wrote:
.The psychologist I spoke to when I was diagnosed with NLD told me that I had a slushy sounding voice like his daughter and I honestly don't hear it when I hear myself speak on audio/video devices. The monotone/sing-songy voice issues you're talking about is very common with NLD but I'm not sure about AS.


I have NLD and AS. The prosody problems are common to both.