Do people insist that you think,feel,intend things you don't

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First of all, this is a cliche (i.e. a widespread lie). The thing all these situations have in common, in reality, is HUMAN RELATIONS. It is both something that you are doing, and something that the other person is doing. The fact that "the other" is several people doesn't mean that they don't influence the interaction.
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Secondly, to answer the question in your OP in as few words as possible: it took me many years of observation and analysis and research to figure out this one. We aspies tend to try hard and compensate for our relational weaknesses and end up being what, for normal people, is "too good to be true" a friend. When something is "too good to be true", it causes 2 reactions in people, generally:

1. Distrust ("If it's too good to be true, then it probably is" they figure)
2. Envy (rather than gratitude), and therefore an irrational urge to destroy that which is better than one could ever be

It's as simple as that. And it's as simple to avoid this ever happening to you again. Do.Not.Compensate. It doesn't work, and as you see, it backfires.

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Last edited by Moondust on 14 Jun 2013, 3:31 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I forgot to say the most important I meant to say:

What you describe has happened to me massively and is, in my belief, the worst and most dangerous aspect of Asperger's. It's the main cause aspies can end up libeled beyond repair, often scapegoated and driven out of their jobs and careers by said libel / badmouthing / invention of horrible (non-existent) crimes.

Why?

Because NTs know instinctively to tiptoe around the most basic of human emotions (in this case, we're talking about distrust and envy). We, without that intuition, are like a bull in a china store and therefore crash into these basic, most destructive of human urges.

It's all simple... the dishonest person wants their way to the top of the chain and they see a weakness within the good hardworking soul of an Aspie. So it's only right that our weakness is exploited for others to get what they feel they want and didn't earn and they have no regrets over doing so. We are also left feeling cheated and wondering what we did wrong and wrongfully so. Then when the person begs forgiveness when they develop a conscience for it, they get rejected. Then we get accused of some crime. Does this sound close to what you are saying?

Nope.... I think we're talking about different social issues...