She didn't add me on facebook

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How do you know she hasn't met these people elsewhere? Unless you are around her 24/7, you probably don't have the best judgement on who she is meeting. She may be adding people from work, other classes/groups, or through friends. They could also be family.

Unless she appears to just be adding random people from outside hear age group/area (which is probably unlikely to happen with most people) it's a good chance that she does indeed know them from somewhere.

I have seen her friend list and also her recent adds (she added A LOT of new people, especially within a short time) and based on the people she added, at least 1/3 of them or so she had no connection whatsoever. No, I'm not some creepy person or something that checks it everyday, I go to her profile once in a while just to see if she has accepted my request.

(Just throwing this scenario out there as a possibility)
Now, suppose even if it was through a friend of a friend, then it still doesn't add up because I'm a former student of her teacher and I know "of" her through some common ground (she is a pianist and I am as well), plus her teacher was my teacher about 5-6 years ago. So there is a connection (albeit indirectly). So I can safely say that she has seen me before (a couple of times, which is more than just a mere acquaintance) and I have talked to her before and get along ok. However, it still doesn't answer the "why" aspect of the question; which is why would she add them, but not me (let alone even random people she never even met/talked to before)?

On your other sentence, I do believe that she is adding random people outside her area since some of the people are in a different state and had very little to no connection with her. Another instance(s) she added some people in a whole different city and had no connection with them, so she is (to an extent) adding random people. Sorry if I'm being too critical over over-analyzing, but I just feel like just saying "to hell with this, I'll never get any real friends let alone keep them" and then just give up trying to make friends and lead a sad, solitary life (which I don't want to as I've already did that in high school and most of college).

Update: She has just added me when I checked today (when I was least expecting it too)

So in conclusion, it might have been that she just missed my friend request many weeks ago and only saw the new ones. I'm so happy that there is still hope in social life and humanity.

I too am tired of people explaining why my social frustrations are unfounded. Like saying thing such as "Maybe that's just your perception, I mean what specific thing did they do that conclusively proves they didn't want you to hang out with them?" "How have you tried? It's a two way street you know."

So glad she accepted you! I was just going to say that the reason she may not have added you is that some people don't add people right away unless the adder has shown interest in getting to know them a little better online. Perhaps the people she added are online friends and they may have been talking for a while. She may have not added you right away as you are an aquaintance of hers, but once you started talking to her, it made her realize that you would like to keep in touch with you, hence the add.