How to avoid mother hens

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Isn't that more of a cultural thing though. Canadians are nicer. They care more about their fellow man, no? In a way you should be glad that people care about you. Where I come from the entire community is cold. They only come together during natural and man made disasters: earthquakes, wild fires, gas leaks and power outages.

Perhaps just drawing a line. Tell people you are okay, you can do certain things yourself. Even mention that you aren't helpless in a joking way.

A lot of the "niceness" in Canada is extremely fake. Even if people are being nice to me, I don't want to associate with them because they are boring anyways. A lot of the "nice" people never have anything interesting to say.

It's too hard to talk to boring people and I don't want them to know how terrible my conversations skills are. They always ask me questions about stuff I don't care that much about and never say anything interesting.

Some of them even rely on me to maintain the conversation. No thanks, I don't want to talk about my or your boring crap. I'd rather talk about interesting stuff that isn't all about me.

When I talk to people who are actually interesting I feel normal and alive. I actually can have a normal back and forth conversation with them. Maybe I should hang out with more of those people and build my social skills that way. Maybe I'll be able to have normal conversations with everyone one day.

It's very hard to make friends in Canada compared to other places. When I went to the USA people were way friendlier and better at conversation, but also a bit louder and more rude. My mom who grew up in Ecuador had an easy time making friends there. She barely has any friends now that she lives in Canada.

Damnit, if the world was just, these mother hens would be attracted to me -- I'd LOVE to receive that sort of attention for once.

IMO that shows that you are well liked, take it from a not-so-well-liked person. Any person showing you "this is how it's done" is subtly showing you a lot of affection by projecting you as their child, THAT IS A VERY NICE SPOT TO BE IN WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF LOVE.

Uuhg, hate it that this affection is being funneled to a place where it's unwanted. There is no justice in this world.

I don't think you would like to be seen as anyone's child if the person in question is your age or younger.

YES I WOULD! because of the undertones of affection, it might seem condescending on the surface but if you project someone else as your own child that means you have a lot of affection for them, you really don't want to see them fail.

I think you're going to have to go through a lot of loneliness to really understand it though, you can't easily see it if it's something that's always been there. I can see it's value because nobody ever did that for me, and I'm not well liked.

But just take those hints for what they're worth, people say "I like you" in much more ways than just plainly stating it, perhaps this is where a lot of us fail as aspies, those undertones aren't very obvious, but they are extremely nice.