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18 Jun 2014, 5:01 am

Outrider wrote:
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Social talk really makes me wonder. I can talk easily about ''lighter'' subjects as I don't really make such a distinction between a heavy or hard subject and a 'lighter' subject, but when I do I actually talk about it. Somehow many people manage to discuss something without even discussing it at all. The subject on itself can be pretty interesting and elevating, yet with most people such a conversation is in fact hardly distinguishable from any other subject they mention as they don't ACTUALLY discuss it. Not even in the slightest. It's like they can produce talk, and then just use a subject as a basis for the talk-producing as a goal on itself.

So hard to explain, and even worse in English :P

I really like it when I find someone like me who discusses the subject. Those are the enjoyable and 'socially satisfying' conversations, such conversations which can even be rather shallow but less than with most NTs make me feel connected to someone. But as of yet I still lack that special skill of being able to discuss a subject without discussing it in the slightest. I could improve on that but on the other hand, why would I?


I don't understand, are you saying they just don't go into DEPTH with discussions and only basically talk about a subject without analysing it, or do you mean something else?

Something along the lines you said. They can discuss something without actually coming close to touching anything of depth or analysation which is impossible for me.


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01 Jul 2014, 3:13 am

It seems to me that a lot of extroverts think it is their job to force all the introverts to be noisy extroverts. However I have never seen an introvert try to force peaceful solitude on an extrovert.

I like being in introvert, I can think better without all the noise.



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01 Jul 2014, 4:02 am

The worst part is when people see through you and after X amount of time their impression of you solidifies and you can tell they're inwardly scrabbling to finish the conversation.

Fun when you sense that.



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01 Jul 2014, 5:58 am

Perkulator wrote:
It seems to me that a lot of extroverts think it is their job to force all the introverts to be noisy extroverts. However I have never seen an introvert try to force peaceful solitude on an extrovert.

I like being in introvert, I can think better without all the noise.


Oh man, that feeling. Extroverts always trying to get you out of the house is the most common thing, I'm betting?

Or trying to get you off the internet or anything like that.

Because I've experienced it before...