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tarantella64
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03 Jul 2014, 10:18 pm

auntblabby wrote:
not having friends puts a crimp in lots of things, like if you need help moving something large and you have no friends, who ya gonna call? or ya need a lift to work one day 'cause the jalopy won't start, with no friends you are stuck calling a taxi. having friends is a survival thing.


Well -- yeah, in lots of ways. And friends also help you stay employed. But survival shouldn't be the only reason for having friends, because then you're kinda more or less using them, and they'll figure it out after a while, how you only call them when you want something from them. And they won't like it, and they'll tell other people that you basically don't have friends, just people you use.

So...yeah. A reason, not the only reason.



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03 Jul 2014, 10:20 pm

tarantella64 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
not having friends puts a crimp in lots of things, like if you need help moving something large and you have no friends, who ya gonna call? or ya need a lift to work one day 'cause the jalopy won't start, with no friends you are stuck calling a taxi. having friends is a survival thing.


Well -- yeah, in lots of ways. And friends also help you stay employed. But survival shouldn't be the only reason for having friends, because then you're kinda more or less using them, and they'll figure it out after a while, how you only call them when you want something from them. And they won't like it, and they'll tell other people that you basically don't have friends, just people you use.

So...yeah. A reason, not the only reason.

in addition to a survival thing, it is for this reason also a MUTUAL thing.



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04 Jul 2014, 12:34 pm

Having friends gives you access to a greater pool of resources than you would have alone.

Even though I'm a loner and very rarely crave human contact, I know from experience that too much time alone is not good for one's mental health, so I make an effort to keep in touch with friends and be selfless (for entirely selfish reasons, apparently) when they're in need.

Also:

Battlefield doesn't have a bloody FFA mode. That's why you need friends :lol:


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