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02 May 2005, 10:47 am

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Nope, I'm currently unemployed, and unfortunately I don't drive and afraid to get behind a steering wheel of an automobile.


This seems to be extremely common with AS. I know I didn't feel like getting behind the wheel until I was 18, and then I had an accident due to my CP on my right side (I couldn't feel the pedals). The vicious cycle created by trying to work out all of the logistical problems of driving safely took 5 years to resolve. Even though I have a car and a license now, my only remaining concern is about being spacey at times which I've suprised myself at how well I've controlled it.

My point is that driving probably won't be as big of an issue as you are thinking it is if you learn how to do it within any limitations you may have.



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04 May 2005, 6:58 am

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I've seen you in the chat room and usually say "hi" but you never say anything. You have to participate as communication is a two-way thing.

This is the reason why I chose to disappear from the chatroom. A clash of different social needs. Communication is a two-way thing, but socializing is not always. As often as I can, I try to fulfill the social needs of those who interact with me. Oftimes, I will just go silent and listen, as this is the extent of my social needs. One of these times, I was called on it and given to know that it was "unacceptable". Aspies, of all people, should be accomodating to people with different social needs.
When there is nothing to say, why say anything?



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04 May 2005, 5:38 pm

Danlo, I don't have a problem with you not saying anything in the chatroom. I remain quiet when I don't havie anything meaningful to say at the moment and I think it is best that other people do the same as well, but tha's not a reason anyone should have to leave.



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04 May 2005, 9:30 pm

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I don't remember why, but I recall having the impression that you were not interested, so I stopped talking. Sorry if I misunderstood you.


No, I was interested

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If you are still interested, I may want to do commissions for you (depending on what you want made, when you want it by, and how much you would pay). I think I remember you saying that my stuffed animals on my site were not very detailed, and you wanted something more detailed than that. I have put up my newer stuffed animals, which are more realistic in quality, if you would like to have a look at those, please tell me what you think..


Yeah, I was interested in wanting children to go with the big mother mouse. I was looking at your webpage and saw that the stuffed animals that you made are actually good.

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Are they fox-spirits? Like kitsune?


Yeah, Kane is a fox-spirit, but I am unsure of he is kitsune. And Lindsey is not a fox spirit, she's an elf-spirit.

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I am the exact same way. My current obsession is with Ayanami Rei from Evangelion, because she is very much like me. Understanding her can help me understand certain aspects of myself. She is quiet and withdrawn, she is very focused, but she has very poor social skills. She does not really understand emotions, her expression rarely changes, and she speaks in a monotone. She is also intelligent and gentle. Not many people appreciate Rei for who she is, in the show, or even among fans. They either say "She's sooo lyke, hot, OMG!! !" or "She's too boring" (which I have heard people say about me, as well).

This is my avatar of her, which I use on all the anime forums I go to:

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I have dressed up as several characters for anime conventions and halloween parties. I dressed as Rei this year for Halloween, unfortunately, the costume did not come out too well. I have also dressed as Lain from "Serial Experiments Lain," and Quon from "Rahxephon."

Are you going to a convention with your costume?


I don't think so, I'll probably just use it for halloween and for whatever family get-togethers that happen around here.

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05 May 2005, 8:30 am

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No, I was interested


Ok.

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Yeah, I was interested in wanting children to go with the big mother mouse. I was looking at your webpage and saw that the stuffed animals that you made are actually good.


If you would like me to do a commission, or a few commissions for you to make the children mice, then please PM me, so we can discuss it further. You aren't under any obligations at this point, so don't worry about that :) .

I'm glad to hear you like my stuffed animals.

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Yeah, Kane is a fox-spirit, but I am unsure of he is kitsune. And Lindsey is not a fox spirit, she's an elf-spirit.


Ah, I see. Are you looking into having these stories published? They sound very involved.

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I don't think so, I'll probably just use it for halloween and for whatever family get-togethers that happen around here.


Halloween sounds like a fun time for it. Conventions can be overwhelming, so if you aren't into that sort of thing, it's best to stay away from them.

Do people usually get dressed up for your family get-togethers?