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I still do this . . .

. . . but NT's never follow my scripts.

ETA: Thanks, SocOfAutism. positive feedback

Its because NT's are unpredictable.

I can totally relate to what you have posted here.
After reviewing the dialogue(s), i even start having long conversations with my wife about it afterwards in order to understand the intentions of the conversational partner better.

Oftentimes yes. I don't really think much of anything I hear in the moment (except that it might make me nervous), and going over it later helps me process the tone of things and how people were probably actually feeling.

I tend to rehearse, too.

Yeah I do this but mostly for reference. It's important to remember things.

The old me would replay all the day's convos over and over again until they were completely distorted in memory and meaning, which is a very bad idea..!

This, too (though obviously with NThubby not with wife. I'm the AspieWife in my family ).

So the corollary question, I guess, would be: Do NT's review their conversations at the end of the day? Or do they just flit through like happy little social butterflies, on to the next conversation without any attempt to learn anything at all from the previous encounter?

Or do they just assimilate that knowledge without conscious thought, like they do all the other nonverbal communication and social skills?

Or--honestly I'm starting to suspect this of certain NT's in my own life--do they have no desire whatsoever to understand, accommodate and accept people with whom they've conversed that day? Do they just subconsciously decide to interact less or interact differently with the people who have struck them as a little odd?

And why on earth does quiet resignation and surrender on my part look like outright rebellion or "copping a 'tude" to certain people who will go unnamed but drive me crazy day by day?

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I often find myself replaying a conversation I've had during the day mainly to see if it all sounded normal and to check if I responded appropriately.

If I was involved in a conversation during which the other person said something that I felt was a non sequitor then I might dissect that conversation for days or weeks until I figure out or come to some conclusion as to why they said what they did. I have had some seriously amazing revelations when I finally discover what they meant or what it was that I said or did that prompted that exchange. I get these Aha! moments when I realize the intended meaning and then it all becomes so clear. I realize that it is okay during the course of a conversation to question that other person on occasion if there is something you don't quite get. Say something like, "why do you say that?" I don't think NT's always understand the comments other people make. There is so much nuance, sarcasm, or joking that goes on that no one expects someone to grasp everything all the time. But, I'm sure I grasp it less often than most NT's so I try to reserve the questioning for situations where it might be important not to miss a message.

I do this constantly. Certain conversations (even online) can demand my assessment, re-assessment and re-assessment for hours or days later.

Yes. Quite a bit.

especially after a party with lots of interaction. less now, though, than when i was younger. last time i remember it being a big issue was was when i was thirty.