How to tell if you are liked by someone with Aspergers?

Post Reply New Topic

When you say "they", you just mean her don't you? Because otherwise you're generalising quite spectacularly and I'm feeleing somewhat offended.

As Graelwyn just said, are you sure it's AS? Because I knew someone who was cruel, patronizing and lacking in empathy or affection and he didn't have AS but a personality disorder.

Hope you get it sorted out anyway and find a way to live peacefully together.

Alvert92 wrote:
I ask this, because, it seems that whenever they open their mouths: it is only to patronize, or to condescendingly correct an 'intellectual' mistake, that you made, about their narrow range of interests. Even to their, 'friends,' they are cruelly honest, patronizing, condescending, lacking in empathy, in affection.

But it becomes tiresome, 'walking on eggshells,' at accidentally slighting her worldview (she is not always 'right') and listening to her constant nagging, and vitriol.

What a horrid generalization. How is it condescending to correct an intellectual mistake? I'd rather people give me the correct information if I've made a mistake about something. Is 'Do unto others as you would have done to yourself' not applicable here? If you find her behavior patronizing, nagging and rude, ask that she stop and perhaps give her examples on how so she'll know what to avoid. What you view as someone lacking empathy and affection may not be accurate. People usually think I'm tired or mad when I'm nothing of the sort. Facial expressions, tone of voice and body language can be bad indicators of empathy and affection. Try a direct question instead and take the answer at face value, unless she's got a track record for lying. On the other hand, I have a bad habit of being mean when I'm stressed and want to go home or have time to myself. I can't control being irritable, so if I can't remove myself from the situation that's a problem, I just get worse. Why can't you disagree with her worldview? Dissent in a household is par for the course, maybe if she knew you didn't agree with her and you kept calling her on it, she'd quiet down if she doesn't want the hassle of a debate. Could backfire though, good luck with the situation.