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Do you have friends with jobs?

What is your school status? Have you completed your A-levels? Are you planning on going to Uni?

I've heard people criticizing the "Job Centre Plus"--but I think you should go there. They would help you out with getting jobs. You might encounter condescending attitudes--but that seems to be mostly reserved to the long-term unemployed. They have classes in how to compile a CV, how to interview, etc. They might steer you towards retail/fast food jobs--but definitely apply for the office-type jobs. Do you know how to type more than 30 words per minute?

I think, if you present yourself decently, that you'll be able to get entry-level jobs. You don't have to be the "cats meow." All you have to do is show that you won't blow up the place if you get angry.

No friends, no.

I guess I have completed them, I have 3... just.

Don't know. I'd have to go through clearing if I did. Wouldn't get into many courses with my set of grades, put it that way.

I don't know what direction to go in. So at the moment just nothing. I don't know how to make decisions, let alone ones this big.

You could get into Uni pretty easily with 3 A-level passes, I would imagine--especially the non-Oxford, non-Cambridge ones. Did you get at least a "C" grade in them?

If you don't know, you could probably get your records pretty easily.

I think you're a nice person, and I want you to succeed.

In all 3 of them? No. In at least one? Yes. Don't want to post my exact grades here. I just hate this decision. I miss being told exact what to do. But nobody is going to tell someone "here is what you're going to do with your life", I have to decide that myself. The amount of options I have right now is just impossible. You open up clearing and it's just long lists. I sound like an idiot saying this but I hate choice. I'd be great as a mindless drone. Do any places other than North Korea look for that in a person?

LOL...I wasn't asking you to post your grades online. I wouldn't do that.

They don't ask for mindless drones. Most companies don't like people with their "own minds," though.

The fact that you have 3 A-levels will probably make it easier for you to get a job.

I bet you'd do good in data-entry. I've seen data-entry jobs that pay about 15,000 Pounds per year. Not much, but not too bad, either.

My parents are under the false impression that I am intelligent and therefore do not want me going straight into work for some reason. They see it as missing opportunities. Last thing I want are more options for me though. But at least then I'll be doing what they say rather than having to make my own mind up. I don't know. I'm stuck. There can't be many people out there who hate decisions.

You'd be surprised how many people in your age range hate to make decisions.

It's the transition from adolescence to adulthood.

I don't see why it needs to be so sudden. A sudden change from "we will tell you what to do and when to do it and punish you if you don't do as you're told" to "you need to think independently and make your own decisions". I don't know how to be an adult or how to learn it. I take it it's not something taught and you have to independently learn it yourself. And yet I'm legally classed as an adult. That makes no sense. Should have to qualify as an adult to be allowed to be classed as one.

I do see your point, really I do.

I think your parents, being NT, want you to enter a profession, rather than do dead-end jobs.

But I know how you feel. I've felt the same way.

Having a job is a good way to develop these skills.

I think your parents will soften a bit once you have a job.

But if I were you, I would still pursue my education.

Being at University, if you go to the right places, join the right clubs, could become intellectually stimulating for you.

So both would be ideal?

But what if I am NT? I don't know yet.

Both are ideal, whether you're NT or autistic.

The purpose of a job is to make your own money, and learn about the "real world."

The purpose of University is to learn beyond what is the Mundane.

if you get both, you're richer as a person.

I was surprised to find that it was you, that created this post, as I am always so impressed with the way that you communicate with others. You are incredibly good at getting your points across, in a clear and concise manner, while showing utmost consideration and interest in other people and differing perspectives. I purposefully go to threads, where I see particular people posting, and you are one of the people on the list (not that I have an actual list, of course). You have purposeful, meaningful interactions with others, with a twist of subtle wit, to boot. I haven't read through the comments, as of yet, so, hopefully, my comment doesn't seem to redundant at this point.

edit: After reading through, I can see that my comment likely does not pertain to the topic at hand. Sorry about that. It was the title and the fact that you are the poster, that caused me to respond as I did.

No, it's alright. It was nice to hear. Thank you for saying that. It means a lot to me.

I concur with KK. This is sound advice. When I was at design school, I utilized the "Career Center' at my college. I went through the exact process that kk describes, above. I had no experience in my field of interest, or anything remotely close. I received assistance with the entire process, from creating a resume (you can do this without having had any work experience, thus far) to the interview process, including role-playing with a particular counselor in the Career Center and doing job-searches. I found a job where I began as an intern and eventually worked my way up, to a paid position. It was a really good situation, not only for the company that I worked for, but, for me, as well. I did need to earn money, however, it only took me three months to become employed by the company. My parents were very helpful to me, during this time, so that, of course made it possible for me to approach that experience, in such a way. I have gotten off-track with my comment, now.

You're most welcome! Thank you, too- : )