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idk why people feel the need to grill someone when they dont recognize them

when i first moved into my neighborhood i got stared at alot because i was one of the only white people in the area but ive noticed that when you go into an area a group of people consider "theirs" they will grill the f*ck out of you
its human nature i guess

people always do that too me, once me and my sister were eating in a car and this girl and man kept staring at us for like the duration of our meal. my sister just waved at them like she knew them or something because they were staring to much. its annoying haha

It is impossible to form an opinion on your problem without a picture

I remember on one of the two (extremely unpleasant) occasions I got dragged into the local nightclub, some school bullies who'd left my school the year before me decided to make it clear that I wasn't welcome in "their place", physically assaulting me and then hounding me for the rest of the evening, because they clearly thought it was funny to do so.

And they call us unable to recognise socially acceptable behaviour...

its almost funny how primitive some people act
that sounds like something youd see on discovery channel about apes or something

Sad, isn't it? As if I don't have enough problems with nightclubs anyway (I've been to exactly two nightclubs in my life, and I only went twice to each one - and then only because I'd been dragged in by friends. None of the times I went produced anything but creeping horror and discomfort), the last thing I needed was for some knuckle-dragging morons to act like I'd been taking a whizz in their territory.

I have the same problem. I'm always hoping that someone will walk up to me and say "hi" and start a conversation, but nooooo! I always have to say "hi" just to have them even know I'm sitting next to them! It's like I'm a human chameleon, unless someone doesn't know the answer to a question and then it's like I'm a human answer sheet! People don't even notice me in online chatrooms, not even the chatroom here!

you cant really rely on everyone else to walk up to you
you have to make them interested and want to come talk to you

Oh, I'm etremely paranoid about people staring at me too! I try to make myself feel better by thinking that they like my hair or clothes or something, but that's probably not it. Honestly, I'm not quite sure why people stare at me. Maybe we're more sensitive to what NT's would just consider normal curiousity from society. There are some acquaintances who I routinely catch staring at me, like they're still trying to figure me out. It makes me even more nervous when I have to talk to them, like I'm adding to their case against me. But, it's strangers who I really can't stand looking at me that way. Grocery shopping is sometimes painful! I almost always take one of my kids with me. I don't seem to get as many looks, that way. My husband can never understand why I don't want to go alone, but I'm not about to try to explain it to him.

Has anyone ever noticed that people also stare at your groceries, while shopping? I get that all the time, too.

Hence the reason why I tend to make people I'm not especially interested in socialising with want to leave me alone. Cloaking myself in an aura of "weirdness" tends to get me a few funny looks, but it does mean unwanted conversation is cut down to a minimum

well i guess if you dont want anyone to talk to you thats a good strategy

Can't argue with success

I was once on the other side of this staring thing. I had been dining out with a friend, and we went up to the front of the restaurant to pay the check. I was admiring the mural on the wall, and walked towards it to get a better look. A woman was sitting at a table in my direct line of sight, and she frowned and kept giving me dirty looks. I finally guessed that she thought that I was staring at her. What an idiot! I thought the mural far more interesting.

I HATE when people stare at me when they're not talking to me. There is one girl in my class who was always done it (I'm a boy), and often stares at me for about 3+ seconds at a time. Often it has involved dirty looks, as if there is something physically wrong with me.

I just feel like saying at them, "Don't stare. It's rude." or "Do you expect me to like you or something" (LMAO ). But most of the time I just ignore it.

People do that around here, too. Sometimes they will yell a greeting to someone several yards away, and make direct eye contact with me while they do it! It has confused the hell out of me many times.