Not having anything to say?

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Asking them a question works quite well as most people love to talk about themselves, it is pretty boring to listen to though. I am rubbish at conversations, I figure most people think im a bit, blank.

I find it hard to think of something that other people will be interested in. I usually just ask about an exam or something.

I, mute.

(Unless it's in ink, or I'm speaking to someone I know. Yeah, I'll give you a blank stare if I don't know you. Don't ask me why please, I'll just write a list full of useless intellectual musings that mean not a damn thing.)

I think that not having anything to say erodes friendships.

What’s this “friendships” thingee you’re talking about? No, seriously; I want to know what "friendships" entails, is it like a group of people sitting around talking about bugger all? Playing hobbies together...making each other feel adequate (or inadequate); singing useless praise that’s expected to be returned, whether it’s wanted or not. Is there more to it than this giant projective facade? I mean, "friends" are rarely there when needed...they usually run at the first sign of "reality" (something that a lot of people cannot handle).

It's a sick freaking joke that only those who're "disabled" can see.

I never initiate conversations because what I have to say is of no interest to anyone I know. That would drive my ex-wife crazy but my girlfriend understands it.

I start asking a lot of questions too, but it tends to make him feel interrogated and uneasy.

I would think that after 3 and a half years, he'd be adapted to or at least tolerant of your ways...

But, yes, finding something to say has always been a problem for me, most of the time because it is very difficult to become interested enough in the topic of conversation to become distracted from whatever is going on in my mind.

Last edited by Sophrosyne on 16 Apr 2007, 10:36 pm, edited 1 time in total.

This is a major problem for me because I prefer to talk only about stuff that I am interested in. Conversations are tedious at best unless its one of my "hobbies".

I used to make a list of anything and everything that's the least bit interesting in my day and then repeat it to everybody I hung out with. I started getting selfconcious though when I realized everyday I sounded like a broken record and it never really helped keep conversations going.

I made myself stop doing that so that I could maybe learn to react to what people have to say or react to the moment rather than read from a script. Didn't work. The conversations seemed to stop entirely. Now I just pick and choose who I tell what. It seems to work because at some point you start picking the topics that can lead into something a little more substantial with certain indivisuals.

When it comes to people I don't know or see very often... f*ckIfiKnow what to do. I don't like talking about myself at all in those situations.

I do this everyday of my life. Unfortunately the burden to carry on conversation often falls on me. I guess you can say that I'm choosing all the wrong people to have conversations with. The one change through the years is that I'm more comfortable being me. No more excessive socializing just to appear social. To top it off I'm becoming less self-conscious about having nothing to say.

I didn't realise it before but I guess that I have adapted to having nothing to say by saying humorous things. It works better when I'm at home where my family understands my kind of humour. Other than that I usually blank out. I really don't have anyhting to say.

Me too.My sense of humor keeps me balanced,and I try to share it,but it doesn't jibe with many folks.I've inadvertantly offended or confused more people than I intended,and I often don't realize what happened until later.I guess that's sort of funny in and of itself.

I'm quite good with discussions - but only if there is a certain topic like music, literature or religion. Otherwise I just can't think anything to say. I hate small talk, and it's hard for me to chat with people, because I strongly prefer real discussion. I feel there just have to be a certain topic, or I become nervous and don't know what to say. I'm picky about friends, because many people don't know enough about music and literature, so I find them boring. Of course they may not be boring actually, but because we can't discuss certain topics, I tend to think we have nothing in common.