What are some things you do that you know bother people?

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And then there's that subgroup of New Yorkers whom I can identify from their idea of a greeting before they utter one sentence. I always catch them off guard & either start messing with them just the same or drop some weird Long Island colloquialism & let them wrestle with it...

The best part is that I have no NY accent whatsoever but my name's on Ellis Island, making this game way too easy. The volume of sarcastic jabbery gets stratospheric.

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For me, it was eating too fast. Ironic, since as a kid, I ate way too slow, so my parents said in fact that was one of the things that caused them to realize that I was "different" from other kids.

I was unwittingly turning off prospective dates/partners with that - it wasn't till after my diagnosis that I learned to gauge my speed (and their facial reaction!) better, so now I've got a wife and kids which I may not have had otherwise!! And she still criticizes me occasionally of eating too fast, as did my in-laws (aaargh...)

Tangent alert (!) I chuckled at Fnord's signature line, "I don't take vague hints, or subtle hints, or strong hints etc.." and then I thought, Fnord wouldn't do so well in Korea. When I read Malcolm Gladwell's "Outliers", he explained why Korean Airlines crashed more than the average airline, because the co-pilot wasn't allowed to contradict the chief pilot, even when the chief pilot was making errors due to lack of sleep - the co-pilot could only make vague hints, subtle at most, so that the pilot would "save face". In other countries' airlines, the co-pilot could criticize and correct more freely. Ahhh, but of course, Qantas has never crashed before, no definitely never crashed, nuh-uh, no crashes, yeah

Unapologetically think for myself and express said thoughts. People seldom know what to make of this. It's fun.

Just being honest, NTs can't handle the truth...

Just yesterday I was (very nearsightedly I might add) commenting on a Mother Jones thread about the GABA neurotransmitter research recently released about ASDs, there was an NT mom there asserting that 1. nobody in the United States is any good at math 2. math has little to do with my work - programming 3. comparing programming directly to accounting 4. that there's no way I'm on the spectrum (diagnosed by SLP) 5. that I don't speak for anyone on the autism spectrum.

Sadly milksnake, I think you're probably right...

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Stimming in general.

I've probably internalized too many of my stims since back in the day I exhibited too many to even count. It was just day-in day-out until I found better ways to reconcile myself.

These days people just yell at me to stop whistling... Not tunes either, just whatever random notes enter my brain out of the aether.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I tend to just avoid people as much as I can, don't need them in my life, I'm perfectly happy at home on the sofa whilst drinking beers and watching top gear, only people I need in my life in somebody who don't mind doing the same (and who can bring more beers).

Not being much stronger, faster, smarter and healthier. Being bullied. Being unable to follow contradicting orders. Being unable to do anything that involves doublethink. Any attempt to stand up for myself. Failing to stand up for myself. Any attempt to have dignity. Having no dignity. Having any kind of ambition.

Being engaged with my thoughts while talking.

I tend to stick around people a lot, even if I'm not talking to them. For example, they might be talking to someone else after they're finished talking to me, and I'll just stand with them because I want to be part of the conversation even though I'm not saying anything. Apparently, some people find that weird, especially if they're not close to me or already used to my quirks. Also, I follow people around a lot.

I want to be alone most of the time if not all the time which seems to bother people around me a lot.

I suppose I should have already mentioned coding/hacking in public. I absolutely can't resist, ignorant people get so paranoid & I just love watching them skitter away. Obnoxious cellphone users are usually the primary targets since it's easy to tell when whomever's on the line can be spared an hour or 2 of derisive nonsense. Usually I just string together a series of gestures to make them think I'm digging around for their passwords/bank details/files but sometimes I'll actually start the automated sniffing, not with any real goal in mind of course, just enough to show them the eyes in my occipital lobe. They absolutely lose it & then everyone gets back to peaceful coexistence.

I sort of see it as hunting psychopaths. If someone deserves to be bothered, is a talent for bothering them not an asset?

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Having meltdowns, and saying I am uncomfortable with something when I am.

How do you all know about which things bother people? Do you ask them and they tell you?