Being rude and aspies

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I'm thought of as rude, and I tend to realize what I'm saying as I'm saying it. I often find myself saying exactly the wrong thing, only to apologize, not really knowing why I said it in the first place.

I expect basic consideration from them, the same as I expect from everyone else.

If they do not show basic consideration, I am absolved from the responsibility to show consideration in turn... and I tend to get rather ruthless.

Had I been in the OP's situation, my response would have been something along these lines:

"With a single phone call, I could have any one of a dozen men in my bed, hot and ready for action, inside of an hour. If I wanted a relationship instead, I could replace you inside of a month. Don't look now, but women aren't exactly beating your door down. Maybe you should just count your blessings and shut the hell up."

I actually said this once to a dumbass I dated years ago who had insulted me one time too many. The quote is nearly verbatim. lol

People call me arrogant and rude. I've learned this is because, in their eyes, I'm ignoring them because I think I'm better than they are. That is why I have one friend (and he considers me a puzzle, which is why I think he likes me). Anyone else pretending to be my friend are there to take from me in some way and, when I stop giving, their true nature comes out. Frankly, I think the problem is Neuro-Typical Disorder, a frightening affliction that unfortunately is such an epidemic that most of our population has it. It results in irrational, narcissistic behavior, and the constant judging of others based on a set of irrational and emotional winds that change based on any number of invisible factors that nobody can possibly see. I'm glad I don't have that problem!! !

Recently I got in the habit of saying 'sucks to be you'. It would just come out because it was the truth. I knew how rude it sounded but I didn't mean anything by it. Whatever I was speaking about wasn't going to suck for very long. It really was no big deal to me... it was to other people though.

The only real solution to this is a great deal of practice in social situations.

Also, "When in doubt, leave it out." is not just a useful maxim for writers. It applies here, too.

I come off as rude all the time because I'm always straight with people and I don't beat around the bush. For example, if I was introduced to a person wearing a "Fall Out Boy" T-shirt, the very first thing I would say to him/her would probably be "Wow, you have really bad taste in music."

I often feel confused and frustrated because I think I come off as being rude and inconsiderate. Definately unintentional. I want to talk to people just afraid that I will say something that will wound or offend them. Then again I know when I dont say anything at all that also comes across as being rude and stuck up. Oh dear Lord help me

I've come to assume that whatever I am saying may be construed as rude. It has gotten to the point where I am intentionally rude in some situation just because I don't see the point in trying to play the smiling clown just to make other people feel better. Screw 'em. If they can't learn to accept you for who you are and learn to be patient with your unintentional crassness then you really shouldn't waste your time trying to play that role. I get that we all have to be actors when out in public, but people like that just force the issue too far for your emotional health.

When I feel insecure I mostly nod and "mm, sure, yeah".
When I get annoyed I mostly look away and "mm, sure, whatever".

I am often percieved as rude. For quick example I answer what I think on questions about someone's cooking. My mother is often annoyed by this, but my father gets downright insulted. Stupid standard question.

I only insult people on purpose when they keep annoying me for too long (the definition of "too long" differs), and as I say something along the lines of "God, you're ugly" to Marcus, who is one of my oldest friends.

I say a lot of innapproppiate things but I don't know when I'm doing it. At my last job I was told I am rude often because i asked how often do I say rude stuff and my assisant manager said "all the time."

Last night I had an email from one of my new online friends and he told me his wife wants to know why I'm opinionated and blunt. He also told me I was getting obnoxious and have lost friends who started acting that way. i have no clue what I did wrong. He asked me what my thoughts were on gays and lesbians and about our president and if I support the army. I answered them honestly, I coudln't give him advice on how to have people understand his fetish because i didn't know what to say and had any suggestions. When he told me he was moving back here to Portland in 60-90 days because he is resigning from the army and I asked him why he was quitting and he got all defensive because he said "Look" and started telling me about his injuries he has. I think he and his wife dumped me as their friend because I haven't heard back after mt last reply to him. I was defensive and I said I wasn't going to be walking on eggshells and if they don't want to be my friend anymore, fine, there are lot of other people on the area that meet my interest.