NT girls are the worst.....

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At my various workplaces, it was always females who had an issue with me and started lots of drama. It wasn't all of the females, but all of the ones who had a problem were indeed females, usually in their twenties and thirties. Older women and all of the men didn't have a problem with me (except one time a male manager hated the fact that I wasn't more social and didn't agree with his political ideals and started being awful to me after that). I think confidence has a lot to do with it, too - and the problematic women also would talk trash on these confident girls behind their backs, though they wouldn't cause problems to their faces. Amazingly, I have even met some highly successful women who apparently lack some self-confidence, because they can be very petty/snarky/sabotaging/miserable as well. :-/

I've found women to be more critical of other women than men at times.

I think it's just being human and is universal.

Hello, Ruby Tates,

I too have spent many years wondering about females who behave in the ways you and others describe in this thread.

Recently, I've come to the conclusion that I've spent my whole life assuming that this behavior is somehow acceptable, and desirable among females, but now I believe that I was wrong.

This is called "bullying" and I don't think it would be wrong of you to explain the improper conduct to the very same manager your bully threatened you with, and request that your place of business schedule a training session for all employees regarding bullying, and proper and improper workplace behavior. Once this woman, and all of the other employees have been formally trained, they can be disciplined if the behavior continues.

Good luck.

I had a roommate like that many moons ago who seemed to get along with the other roommate but with me she was always finding reasons to yell at me and blame silly things on me that were not my fault.

For the most part I ended up having to avoid her which worked well. I also learned to push back and though she didn't like it she left me alone.

Some people are just strange like that, then again you're better then me because if they had started up with me it would have gotten worse.

The roommate who I lived got mad at the smallest and silliest things.

1. I wasn't born in 1975 or earlier
2. She gave my parents her cell number and made us believe that it was the house line. When my mom tried to call me, she yelled at her on the phone. She also yelled at me
3. One time she had a chair in the kitchen set up against the wall and I didn't know so I pushed it in. She came home and said "That chair goes the other way."

Oh yeah.

jkrane has kind of a good point, I think.

"Typical" shouldn't be taken to mean, "moral", or "good", or, "right", or "ethical", or "proper", or "acceptable", or any other positive term. Lying is considered to be neuro-typical behavior. Strict adherence to honesty is considered to be deviant.

That doesn't make lying good, and honesty bad. It only means that the majority of people lie, sometimes. It's typical, that's all!

I'd recommend looking into how to actively listen, and conflict resolution techniques in order to deal with this in future. If you feel it's getting to levels of harassment, you may want to get HR involved.

For the rest of this thread - yikes. Claims with regards to evolutionary biology could do with backing up, and it's important to avoid generalising, especially when that leads to an irrational dislike of one particular group of people who share nothing but a gender.

I understand that .

As other users have stated, it's a socialization thing that occurs with women. Often times, girls get roped into socializing in large circles during school and then it just branches out from there.

I've had a lot of jobs in my past and honestly it sounds like they just don't like you at all and want you gone. I think most people have the right idea that they're being petty and annoying, but I can definitely tell you that women who keep coming back like that want something out of you and aren't just looking for a daily rise.

Ignore them.
Don't even respond to it. The BEST conflict resolution is to just ignore it because it drives the other party batty as hell and you just continue on as you were before. If something really did happen, I think you have the capacity to explain it rationally to upper management.

I find NT females very difficult to relate to and communicate with. I have difficulty communicating with my mum sometimes and the fact that I'm F to M without the hormones and operation makes it that much harder. She already has a daughter. She has my younger sister. They can cackle together and leave me alone with my war toys all they wish.

This person sounds like he/she is sort of a nut.

I've met people like this; it's better to ignore this crap, rather than get angry at it.