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tatals
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24 Mar 2016, 9:13 am

Jamesy wrote:
tatals wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Pileo wrote:
Why do you disapprove? I get it in can be uncomfortable, especially for us, but it's extremely practical.


Well wouldn't it be obvious....... :roll:
People throwing house parties at night
Having to do loads of house chores
People stealing your food
Having to balance a job with living with other people
Living with people who might not be very nice



Of course I don't dissaprove of living with a partner


I've checked every item on your list. I had roommates who loved to throw parties at home, who would get home after midnight bringing friends. Also, house chores were a problem, because they (the roommates) would frequently break my routine, and so I would always get frustrated. And sometimes I got home from university and couldn't find any food because someone had eaten it all.

The first roommate I had was a disaster. We were incompatible. We had been friends before, but living together ruined it. The second one was a psychologist, and she was very nice. She was actually the only one I got along with. She was very organized, had fixed routines and didn't throw parties. The others after her turned out to be bad, just like the first one. At this point, I didn't care anymore. I just wanted someone to share my bills with, and I spent my time in my room. I'm pretty certain many of them thought I was a weirdo because I liked to be alone. Oh, well.

I'm not saying I wouldn't do it again - we never know if we might need it -, but I'd certainly try to avoid it as much as I can.




I am talking about living in a house with people not a university as such


Me too. I see now that you are from the UK, and I understand that there is a difference in British English regarding the usage of the word 'roommate'. I meant 'housemate'. Sorry that I wasn't clear.

In my country, we usually don't live in the university. College undergrads share houses/apartments.



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25 Mar 2016, 3:37 am

a happy medium for me would be communal living with private spaces.



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25 Mar 2016, 9:53 pm

there's no way I could share with anyone I like my own space.

the only housemate I would have is my little cat.



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25 Mar 2016, 10:04 pm

I am in a bad roommate situation and trying to get out of it. I'm currently with one other female and she is pushy and unpleasant (and a slob.) I'm going to look at a 5 bedroom house that has an opening. Not sure if it's a student house or not, but at this point I don't care. I can't stand bitchy women, never could.



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29 Mar 2016, 5:54 am

Definitely not, I shared my house with a couple of aquaintances for a couple of months once years ago. It was horrendous. They very quickly went from being almost friends to me asking them to leave and never speaking to them again.

Apart from that I've only ever shared with my husband and children, we are all ASD and it's a bit of a disaster but we all mostly get along most of the time so it works, but sharing with non family? Never again.



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30 Mar 2016, 12:29 am

I share a house with one person, (soon to be two,) but it's a bit of a special case. He (and the other guy moving in soon) are both close friends of mine. If I ever get overwhelmed, I can retreat to my bedroom and put on headphones for a while. It's pretty cool.