My Social Life SUCKS

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I'm not religious at all, but for anyone that is I can't think of a better way of looking at it.

I can totally see what you guys are saying, to take that risk and go challenge myself to meet people.

But where can I do that?

_Eric

Well, without knowing much about your circumstances--

Do you have any hobbies, or is there something you'd like to try? If so, see if there are any groups in the area (or online) for anybody else who shares them.

Is there a skill you don't have? If possible, try a part time education course on something or other.

Depends what you like doing.
Join a club, take a sport up, support a local team, learn pottery, go to art class, learn a foreign, martial arts, yoga...
Whatever it may be, choose something; go and do it. There will be other people there with similar interest.
You should not look at it like a risk: you are going out to do something which appeals. If you do not meet anyone, then you have a good time anyway.

Probably the easiest way to find friends is to socialise with people who share the same interests as you, that will make conversation easier. For example, I'm interested in manga and anime, so I found a nice manga community which regularly holds meetings, and suddenly I have friends... It was surprisingly easy. Now sometimes people even call me on my phone, and I'm still scared of it... But I guess that's inevitable when you want to have a healthy social life.

Which reminds me, I got a phone in my room. But I hate it when it rings, because it interups me. But as soon as I hear who it is and if it's someone I don't mind hearing from, then I'm alright.

You guys got that same problem?

_Eric

No, I don't like to talk on the phone at all, it confuses me when I can't see the person I'm talking to. Sometimes I even forget I'm in a conversation, and I say the sort of thing that's on my mind, which then usually confuses the other person...

Be patient Eric and someone will come,
it took me years to find the right relationships,
but it is so worth the wait,
and I believe that there is someone out there for everyone,
including you.

I have the same problem you do. All i can say is.

Don`t be a fake.

Don`t be a liar.

Be Patient

exactly! it only sucks if you let it bother you

It varies, at times I have no problem picking up the phone and making a call, others, if the phone rings, even if it is someone I know, even if it is someone I like, or at the least don't dislike, I end up putting the phone on silent and letting it go to voice mail. I just can't bring myself to pick it up at times, and I've got no clue why.

Although finding someone to be with is so important for you. They are out there, this forum proves it. Celebrate your accomplishments, recognize your difficulties and take some time everyday to accomplish something new, no matter how small the acheivement is it's the step forward you need. Accept yourself for who you are

To be honest with you, neither do I.
I don't go out on weekends, the very few friends that I have don't live near me and don't even talk to me outside of school, and I simply put just don't fit in that well.(People say I do, but they never expirenced AS)

When all these people say, why don't you go out, it's hard for me to explain to them why.
So you are not alone, Eric.

That's good advice for AS and NT alike. Don't look at it as a way to meet people -- look at it as a way of getting out and doing something you like. Just by being out and about with other people, you'll meet other people. And if you're doing something you like or are pursuing an interest, most of those you'll meet are people with that same interest. Common ground.