hurtloam wrote:
HistoryGal wrote:
Most people size up a room first to identify who the popular people are and than try to connect. People do this without thinking. If you were a popular person in other places, these people will pick up on that and include you.
I'm a bit dubious about that. What's your proof?
However, I might give it a go. Popular people are probably good at small talk, so they can do all the talking, so it might make it easier on me.
I've had a think about this because it's a new idea to me and I have come to the conclusions that people look for people who are like themselves. If someone is not shy and geeky they probably aren't immediately drawn to the shy geeky types and will head over to speak to the people who are more like them. NTs are in the majority, so more will be drawn to each other than be drawn to us.
I don't think that they do it out of maliciousness. I think it's just subconscious. I'm not NT, but even I find it hard to be drawn to people I have nothing in common with. I try, but some people just wind me up the wrong way.
I try not to take offence if someone doesn't want to be my friend. Why should I make them hang out with me if they don't really like me. I'd rather not have pity friends.