Don't get along well with ppl that are different from me

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Thank you all.

I can handle small differences but not big in the long run. A friend with a child can I handle in the beginning, but after a couple of months when we see each other and she always brings the child with her (as all women do even if the have good fathers at home) I can´t cope, we are simply too different and I start to avoiding her (she has other mom-friends so don´t worry that I left her lonely).

Another example, if I love old rock music but a friend of mine hates it and only love new pop from the last year. Then I do have problems to keep this friendship going in the long run, this because I know for a fact we will never listening to the same music with each other. The big point to be in a friendship is to share moments, not only silent ones.

I don´t use make up every single day and are not a fashion police either, but I do feel it´s important to have a friend that have some sense of good taste and style. It´s not the most important thing in the world, but it will be hard in the long run if I prioritize looking through some shops sometimes but the friend using the same sweather 5 years back and doesn´t care.

If a friend has bad hygien and only wants to eat junkfood it´s also a problem, then we not share the base of how to take care of yourself and also that can lead to problems in the future.

To summarize, I always think everything in the long run, not in the moment.

As "shortfatbalduglyman" said, I did also accept too much before, that I regret later. This is why I´m really selective these days.

You're going to find it really difficult to find friends exactly like you. Prepare to be lonely.

Why don't you just do something different with your non make up loving friend. Just don't drag her round Superdrug. Go have a coffee with her.

Don't go see your fav band with the pop music fan. Go for a walk round the park and shoot the breeze.

Dating sites may be a way of locating possible friends for your tastes. It is one of the few ways I know of that will let you quickly sort through a large number a people for things you have in common.

It was examples on why "small differences" in ppl can get big in the long run. (The only friend that is real is the one with children, but she left the friendship before I did).

Well, whaddya know? You're your own best friend!

I don't need people to be the same as me, but I DO need at least a couple of major similarities. Interests, background, mental health, general outlook on life - I desperately need some kind of "handle" like that to get started. Interests are best. Introduce me to ten people, say, and with nine of them I'll struggle to even speak coherently. The tenth I'll hit it off with.

The worst are the most utterly normal people, whose lives and interests consist of everything typical for their age, sex and nationality. It's not that I dislike them, I just can't bluff my way through talk about the kids, the new sofa and the Leeds United game. It's easier to connect with someone who's a bit outside that whole life in some way, even if it's not in the same way I am. That's kind of how I became an honary lesbian for a while!

right now i ain't got no hobbies.

but instead of interests and hobbies, i am most concerned with precious lil "people's" attitudes

numerous precious lil "people" are judgmental and condescending and act like they are the greatest thing since sliced bread. and they are manipulative and impatient

I’m talking to some people in my city, we met online on Facebook, I cannot talk to them too good, I try my best. There this woman I talk to more, she is disabled, we have things in common & we can do things the same, she can understand me better too, but I haven’t talked to her in a while, I miss talking to her.