Basic face to face etiquette lacking in a lot of NTs

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I tend to be one of the people who sometimes checks their phone in social interactions, not because I get bored or anything but usually because I get uncomfortable or anxious with the interaction or person and my phone gives a sense of safety to me. I’m trying to get better at it though, when I get anxious I try to keep a stress/memory foam ball around to squeeze, and that usually works.
It seems to be more of a generational thing from what I can see though. Growing up around technology can create a dependence on it. :0

It's true, old-fashioned etiquette made things easier for people like us by giving explicit, clear rules. Without it, there's too much guesswork. Even when I was young I often got labeled as overly formal and polite, but I didn't have much of a choice.

Also I hate it when you're talking in a group of people and someone keeps playing something loud on their phone. It's OK if it's relavent to the conversation, but if it's not, I find it annoying. If I want to play on my phone when in a room with other people, I put headphones on, or just turn the sound down so that it doesn't disrupt everyone else. I do respect that others might not be interested in videos on my phone at that particular time, especially if they are talking. My aunt's husband is the worst for this. He has an obsession with birds, and when we're all in a room talking, he'll keep showing everybody pictures or videos of birds on his phone, when the conversation has nothing to do with birds. Sounds rather Aspie-like, but I don't know, because the only Aspie thing he does is has an intense special interest and thinks everybody else is just as obsessed as he is.