Stratagems of Toxic/Abusive people. Manipulation/gaslighting

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One of the things that abusive people will do is blame the victim in any way they can.

Essentially they portray the victim as the one who is causing harm, as the one who is abusive, as the one who's behaviour needs to be corrected, etc.

They will find some minor fault that the victim allegedly committed (or simply make something up) and use that as "evidence" that the victim is causing harm.

One of the things that abusive people will do is blame the victim in any way they can.

Essentially they portray the victim as the one who is causing harm, as the one who is abusive, as the one who's behaviour needs to be corrected, etc.

They will find some minor fault that the victim allegedly committed (or simply make something up) and use that as "evidence" that the victim is causing harm.

wow am so very sorry that has been happening to you. This typifies the extremes that abusive people can go to . And even worse , seen these things by direct observation , am writing it in this way because i do not have the stamina to go into my experiences . Eventually these people became criminally intent . Seeing opportunity in other persons problems to use to their advantage . As has written here before the depth , of extremes ,those people will go to are beyond ones imagination , family included . Eventually ending up in the end of my 13 yr marriage to my husband,resulting in his homicide ./ execution by same people. And subsequent manipulation of the legal system , to make it appear as though he was the aggressor . Inspite of obvious facts in the case. This merely the worst of the many times have been subject to this type of stuff. Understand the idea of popurri (samples of abuse)
This situation not resolved inspite of calls to justice dept and f.b.i.,old case now. Group of three people , related set him up and cornered him.
Talking about self advocating , and how that might go ?
Guess should consider myself lucky? To still be alive even
Not wanting or caring for sympathy anymore . Am writing this as merely reporting of facts . Hopefully allowing for peeps posting here to understand my level of awareness given this topic . I Can identify with these situations.


have experienced abuse from lots of people, including from my own family members. I had multiple forms which I like to refer to as "The abuse sampler platter."

One such example was when I was placed at a company on a work program with job coaches. The CEO, and her late brother were both very abusive and toxic people. However, they talked about their father abusing them as children.

1. The CEO abused anyone who called her out by getting extremely defensive if anyone called her out on things by finding examples and gaslighting. If she or her brother put me down and I called them out it was "I was just kidding."
2. Her brother was more toxic and would constantly criticize me while pretending to care in addition to gaslighting me if I called him out. He also sexually harassed me. The CEO refused to take responsibility for her brother's actions too.

My former boss hates me for advocating for myself and for calling her out. Instead of taking responsibility, she blamed me for "Condeming her family." She also tried to accuse me of "Using my autism as an excuse instead of taking responsibility." Meanwhile, she plays the victim.

And your goal through pointing this out to someone, whom is isolated IS ...?

Merely to gain understanding I think, though it has been almost 2 years now. Disparaging the experiences of another serves absolutely no purpose. Pacifism and peaceful coexistence is better for everyone. What I have since done about this is I have gone onto SSDI. This subject matter was the core of my argument that Autism made me hugely susceptible to exploitation and powerless against systemic abuse in the workplace due to abusive individuals, in no other setting than the workplace have I seen such relentless and systemically ingrained toxicity.

I had been attacked for every quality about me and every type of thing I believe, including for being Atheist. It was a good thing to become aware of that I am not the only one to experience it. My well being has improved immeasurably simply from being able to leave it behind. My view is we are all human and deserving of basic level of respect and dignity. I am an introvert so having alone time has been a great thing.