People's true colors

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I just posted about an event that took place last Friday where I got to participate as a blogger since I had requested a press pass. When I started a crowdfunding campaign, the director made some donations in funds and a ticket to this special brunch which was a benefit for their organization.

When I got there, she was nice to me for 5 minutes but after that, I noticed this uppity side to her where she seemed to treat me and several others like pieces of trash or so they told me. Basically, she was too busy to accept but my business cards but would get them "Later." I thought this was very strange being that she made those donations and raised a lot of hoopla on their organization Facebook page that she had raised money for a reporter on the spectrum. She also was a real snot about where I sat because certain sections were for people who "Paid for the event." she was also seemed to be very pretentious when introducing the speaker who she was "Good friends" with. She rubbed me the wrong way and made me feel sad.

Glad I never had to deal with any of these people personally. My brother's ex girlfriend is like this and I never seen her true colors but my husband has and my parents. The person everyone sees is the act she puts on for everyone to see.

Has to be aggravating

I encounter these types a lot. Almost every single one of my 'friends' have turned out to be two-faced, which is why I don't really have friends anymore. The reality is that many of these two-faced people choose to 'prey' on kind and lonely individuals because they see them as desperate for friendship. I remember befriending a girl in one of my classes at university, who showed her true colors early on. I was being dropped off at her apartment one time, and just before I arrived she texted me "Can you get me a chocolate bar at the convenience store down the road? Thanks." I didn't of course, and thought it was quite a rude thing to ask. That same evening, she and her friend left me alone at a crowded party where I didn't know anymore (and refused to answer my calls and text messages). I had a massive panic attack and cried myself to sleep that night. Blocked her # and social media after that. I have met many snakes, and she was one of the worst. I truly hope karma gets her good.

In a nutshell, "when people show you who they are, B-E-L-I-E-V-E THEM!"

When people show you who they are, run away.

I will say there are certain types of people I’m not used to such as celebrities. Justin Bieber and Kim Kardashian are 2 people I never thought could be that bad. Yet the only way to know who to trust and who not to is to get to know them such as immigrants. For those who turn out to be bad we at least can learn from these experiences like any other mistakes (trial and error). It is irresponsible to make stereotypes out of anyone especially before you even know them.

I think we probably have a harder time with true colors because we have a hard time reading them in terms of
1. Body Language
2. Facial Expressions
3. Other hints, nuances etc.

What gets me is when I get the "But they were so nice before, why?" Such as the case of my former roommate and the woman at the brunch.

It's only when I see their actions that I realize, "Oh that's why they did that" though I don't always get it right away.