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I don’t believe most people here are at the “bottom of the ladder.”

That’s true. I would consider the bottom of the ladder to be drug addicts/criminal types.

I totally get what your saying about being at the bottom of the ladder. I can only speak for myself but its not so much being in that position but more feeling as I'm on the bottom and lack of confidence. I tend to feel like I'm less than others because of the way they make me feel and how i'm talked over in conversations. A lot of it comes from my own lack of confidence and my own feeling of not being as popular and interesting as some of the others that BS their way through life, bigging themselves up with false ego's. I can't do that and tend to be too honest for my own good. I also tend to take people on their face value and make up my own mind what they are like. There's too much stereotyping goes on in life. You can't decide peoples social status or what they are like based purely on a stereotype of that person.

Nobody likes to think they are near the bottom......

No, it's not, and the longer one lives, the more clearly one sees. I'm grateful, very grateful, to my father, because one of the earliest things he taught me was that I should consider "knowing the truth" to be much more important than "being comfortable". He also taught me that sometimes the truth could be overwhelming, and that this was why we have art, music, and other beautiful things - so we can refresh our souls, and even share beauty with others.

I had a wonderful day yesterday, and it was filled with people. They were doing something difficult and important and dangerous, that helped me, and they were really good at it, and I respected their expertise and showed that respect. Found ways to help them that didn't interfere with the things they were doing (food, water, shade, places to sit and rest during their lunch.) And they appreciated the help. That's how it should be. But I'd do myself and them a disservice if I tried to tell myself that's how it always is.

I had to "stretch" myself and tolerate a lot of noise for more than eight hours straight. I was having the old shingles torn off my roof, and a whole new underlay and shingling and venting put on and in. Had to stay in the house so my cats wouldn't be terrified. I did it, and was proud of myself for managing it, and even more proud of myself for being able to rise to the occasion and be welcoming and helpful to the people who were there. But by the end of the day I was almost as exhausted as the workmen!

It was worth it. I have a new, much stronger roof, and positive memories of a day spent with strangers who really helped me . One day like that, that's really like that, can offset a lot of days that aren't .

Roofers are cool.....fun to watch and talk to. Great day.

It was! No pretentiousness, just a get-it-done-RIGHT-the-first-time ethic, and a lot of hard work, and good humored guys, too. Working as a real team.

(Which actually aligns a lot with The Aspie Way of doing things, now that I think about it. Hard work, get it done, do it right, no BS, no pretenses. No wonder I liked these guys! )

And from what I'm hearing now apparently most of my neighbors (retired people, kids home from school) really enjoyed watching them too . How cool is that? I was worried that the noise would bug people!