I am reason my ex friend is "Depressed."

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I pretty much moved on nearly three years ago after going on that "Road trip" with him. Really, it's only when I see him that I have to put up with seeing him pouting periodically.

Put him in prayer. Doesn't mean you got to hang with him. He's got Asperger's and sometimes in guys it makes them jerks. Walk away as this is situation not for your highest good.

I'm still working on being to peacefully pray for those that irritate me. Yeah right, Father so and so, how do I see the Face of Jesus in such and such person? He tells me, get on your knees and pray.

I am praying for him believe me all the time because he's been so depressed and I do feel sorry for him. On the contrary, associating with him will just bring me down because he's so depressed and negative. Not only that I feel I would be walking on eggshells around him. When someone is that down, one has to be really careful in what they say. Let alone, I don't want to feed into the attention that he's trying to get.

You can't be around him.....just walk away and take care of yourself.

What are your thoughts of me going to events that he also attends? Should I like at other organization with different events away from him?

Also, know that I was very sad about cutting that relationship loose and especially the first time during that convention but every time I was around him and his friends, I saw another side of him that didn't make me feel bad. Then when we tried to re-connect, I never felt good during any of those interactions.
Examples
1. We talked once over Thanksgiving in 2015 and the first facetime was ok but the second one, he seemed like he wasn't all that interested in talking to me
2. He face-timed me because some girl had let him down who had been chasing because he had a crush on her. Yet, she was in the middle of breaking things off with another guy. It was because she wanted space from him and he was upset with her. He didn't say much and seemed to hang up not long after
3. Then the girl on J Date who kept leading him around
4. Then, of course, the mini road trip

All he seems to do is whine, whine, whine

This guy reminds me of my sister's annoying friend. Her friend is in his 30's like your annoying guy. He just got married last year to a girl he met on the internet that is my sister's age. When my sister's friend was single all he did was freaking whine all the time about not having a girlfriend or many friends. He also has had a crush on me for 6 years. He shoots baskets with my sister in my driveway every so often in the hopes of seeing me. He thinks I'm mean as the wind for not wanting anything to do with him and always avoiding him. His wife doesn't like me. I have every right to hang around people that have a positive influence on me and that I feel comfortable being around.

Go ahead and attend professional events. Just distance yourself from him.

Elaine, you're right. Sister's friend is not good for you.

It's sad that his wife doesn't like you but she probably had a point about him going to see you period and it sounds like he is still obessed.

My former friends think I am mean too and especially because I didn't like his friends very much because not only did I think they were rude but I also felt that they seemed to be a lot younger and had the bit of a bad influence in pulling him down. Now I like his current friends from this organization better because they seem to have a good influence on him.

He also thought I was mean because, after that road trip, he used me for a nap on my futon because he wasn't feeling well from the food that he ate at the mall. Yet, he was passing gas left and right stinking up the living in not even once saying "Excuse me" or "I am sorry." Instead, he just whined about the girl who wanted space and how she pushed him away.

Good grief. What a turd. I don't like some of the people my sister's annoying friend hangs around because they aren't nice to my sister and they probably talk crap about me to my sister's annoying friend's wife. Luckily those other friends of his are moving at the end of the year and my sister avoids them like the plague. My life is so much better when I cut off all contact with people that aren't good for me.

Lol, especially when he had flatulence issues next to his incredibly bad manners. When I called him out on it in the process of cutting him from my life, he said I was the one being rude. I also blamed the downfall of our friendship on his two friends at the con because I felt they were so mean.

Why didn't I like their friends? Because they were all drama and made me feel bad.

When they were together, they formed and acted like a group of high school cliques or rather "Followers" but in this case, they were video game cliques who I refer to as "The nasties" because they could be really destructive. They were also extremely fragile and opinionated. Because of that, they didn't respect me as a person and nor did he make any time for our friendship. Instead, he ran off with them all weekend.

When I suggested doing laser tag, he told me that it would cost him $5.00 and he didn't want to waste his money. Then when I bumped into them the next night, they had the nerve to tell me that they were going to play but didn't bother to invite me or anything. What? So I stuck to my own schedule and went to meet other friends.

As I said, they dragged some political crap into the start of the weekend when I brought up going to this one eatery for a milkshake and it was "I am not eating there because they don't support our beliefs." "Yeah me either, " "Me either." Honestly that poisoned thing because of their attitudes. I didn't want to bring politics into a convention.

Then there was a time where we were getting to bed and he had the nerve to accuse me of putting gum on his friend or rather the queen bee's laptop which is funny because I don't chew gum.

That queen bee was very rude and she was rude to me a year before right? Example, I didn't stay with them that year but rather I stayed with another cool friend of mine. Anyway, she was walking around with a bowl of candy and handing some out. I happened to see her and asked if I could have some. It was, "I am not giving out any more. I am saving this for the rave."

Truthfully, I thought there were a couple of times where I heard him and his friends saying things about me behind me back but I can't say for sure.