Do People Look at You Funny?

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What would scare me is dating a lady who has an identical twin. They could swap places and I would never know. Scary! (I don't mean that as they would. I would just be soo confused!)

Do your sister and you look alike? Did you get to prank teachers in school?

I guess it scares me because I have prosopragnosia. I can loose even my own Mum in a crowded place and it is scary!

Seems trying. Too hard can be as outstanding I guess as anything .?

Yes. Haha!

I have had many people over the years say "Why can't you act normal like everyone else?"
I thought I was acting normal like everyone else! What am I doing that stands out? I never did quite get that one! And the more I was then "Trying" to act normal, the more I was being told off for "Not" acting normal!

What if normal isn’t normal ........ it’s just being .. and try not to offend most others if possible , but if they stare then , I start to wonder about them . But , I try to smile and move on ...

I think I'm good enough at masking not to be noticed most of the time but this is making me paranoid too.

Growing up where I did, it was constant. I never understood what it was, I wouldn't be doing anything odd. I can still remember being stared at pretty much anywhere I was, always by strangers (so they weren't thinking "There's that weirdo from down the road" or whatever.) The most recent visit back was more of the same. I'm thinking, "Umm... Am I really pumping gas in a 'different' sort of way?" I've never understood it. A few times, I've smiled and waved to them, but I stopped that after it almost backfired once. One guy took fairly extreme offense to it and there was a tricky situation there for a moment. I don't recommend it as a course of action.

Autistic gait

Facial expressions, but wearing a mask disguises them a little

I have had the same reaction. I once had a dad and a little boy go to cycle past me on a bridge. The dad went first and the boy looked at me and fell off his little bike. He had hurt and was a little in shock but he was ok. He had stopped and the dad looked back. The dad had not seen this as he had not been looking.
The boy just looked at me. The dad was annoyed and came back to get the boy back cycling but he could not help the boy and hold his bike at the same time. I said "Shall I hold your bike?" and the man went buzzurk on me and accused me of trying to steal his bike from him.

This is the type of reaction I get for being me. Why should I even want to try to fit in with people like that? So I isolate myself from society to protect myself.

I feel the same way. Most of my misanthropy is protective.

I used to act embarrassing and probably got stares from people, but that was when I was a teenager. Since then I've learnt how to mask well and blend in, and I don't do anything unusual. But people still stared and it tore me up inside. These days people don't stare so much because I've got a mask on, so maybe the stares I used to get was something to do with my mouth, although I don't really see how that can attract so much unwanted stares. I didn't walk around with my mouth wide open though, I always had my mouth closed. Maybe it was the facial muscles around my mouth that was "wrong", but again, what is the "right" way to look? If I had a deformity then people may (wrongly) stare but I don't. I just look ordinary like everyone else.

Oh, and I don't look like a potential threat either. In fact I look kind and trusting. I've even had strangers ask me to keep an eye on their shopping bags while they go to the bathroom. I'm sure if I looked a bit strange or whatever people wouldn't put that much trust in me to guard their belongings, as I do live in a city with a high crime rate. And people let their kids stand near me, even putting them in the seat next to me on a bus when there are plenty of other empty seats.

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All you can do is be your best self , try not to let mistaken reactions , of people you don’t know guide your life.
Have tried to learn to be careful how you help others , have found it to backfire on myself also .. and just careful how I let my kindness manifest itself . But it’s hard to do sometimes with a overly trusting nature .

"You mean, let me understand this … cuz I … maybe its me, maybe I’m a little effed up maybe. I’m funny how? I mean funny, like I’m a clown? I amuse you? I make you laugh? I’m here to effin’ amuse you? Whattya you mean funny? Funny how? How am I funny?"

All the time. I usually think I'm making friends with someone, it all seems to be going well, then one day...I get The Stare. A kind of 'WTF is this woman talking about?' expression And the shutter goes down and they sidle away out of the friendship.

Yes, although it's mainly due to my visual impairment being very noticeable (my eyes don't look normal). And it's usually young children who just aren't used to seeing people like that.

occassionally that is common with myself too . Often i think, that some people can quickly get left behind in conversation . if you start to provide more information than the other party is able to have any form of reference for .Have been several times when younger asked,if i was from some place other than the USA .
cause of the manner in which i use language. . This and other speech mannerisms can cause your listener to be left in the dark , As they struggle to keep up with your conversation . Was taught by some very kind other WP
member to try to remember your audiences possible limitations .Or varying
frames of reference .

I have been told I am not Welsh by some, but if I am not Welsh then where are I from as I was born here and have (Apart from a few days abroad in Scotland and a few weeks abroad in England) always lived here.