Nightclubs are hell. What's cool or fun about a thumping, sw

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i've been there may 8-9 times, have enjoyed it only once as friends took me there on my birthday, else its a hell full of smoke and people who've lot it all. Its like wild animals cheering and ofcourse jeering at each other. Too load, too noisy, too flashy, too choking. Being a human being sometimes I've to go there with friends but I enjoy watching people off the floor rather than going on the floor to dance.

I've been to two nightclubs twice. One was in my home town, and I hated it because it was too loud and I got assaulted the second time I went there (some old school bullies who'd left the school the year before decided to shove me over on the dance floor because I was in "their place"). Never mind, it's closed now because somebody got shot there...

And the other two times were at a nightclub in my university town. Both times I ended up sitting above the dancefloor nursing a drink and feeling utterly, horribly alone. So I stopped going there, too.

Mind you, I don't know why I even bothered, because every time I went I hated the feel of music resonating in my sternum, and I loathed being around so many people in so tight a space. Why put up with that just to flail around cluelessly on the dancefloor and pay through the nose for ludicrously-overpriced drinks? I should have just stayed home and read a book or something...

I have been to countless nightclubs when I was in a fraternity at UCF. I was dragged there unwillingly after the first few times as I hate that kind of atmosphere. All clubs are is dancing and random one-night stand hookups. That isn't really what I am looking for at all. Now the only reason I would ever go to a club is to see a band I enjoy perform live. I love live music, but I hate crowds. Such a conundrum.

I have to say I hate nightcubs:
Too noisy
The drink is always overpriced

I agree too noisy as you can't get in anything close to a meaningful conversation (not that you usually would). I drink in the parking lot usually with friends before I go to Dave and Busters (closest thing I have been to recently resembling a nightclub). That is a huge ass arcade though. I go to bars but that is only on Monday dollar Newcastle or dollar Guiness night (Wed. I think). That is only when dragged against my will pretty much by friends who I smoke weed with mostly. I am pretty drunk atm... I love teh vodka.

And all this time I was worried that I'm a major 'nerd' because I don't like nightclubs!

I went a few times when I was at university but didn't like it - loud and smelly!

Helen

Don't forget your swimming caps

I like the music, and I like dancing!

But thats as far as it goes. Too many NT people out there out for a piece of meat (meat farm), or huddled in groups excluding every one else.

Perhaps one can consider more indy and housey places, with techno and trance. There would be more inclusive people, although some would be on E.

Now I am considered "too old", and live a long away from the nearest clubs (Brighton is the nearest clubbing city but I live out in the country).

Even if I did go clubbing I would do it the Aspie way and get out there and do freestyle dancing and not care if no one approaches me or if regarded as a "nut case" - at least I won't get thrown out for being a middle aged eccentric freestyle dancer!

I was always amazed that anyone could manage to chat anyone up in a nightclub, even allowing for the fact that this is the main reason many people go to them in the first place.

I've never been able to dance either, and almost no amount of alcohol will persuade me to try. And I'm not that badly co-ordinated; I've always been quite good at sports. I've been clubbing with some people who were bloody terrible at sports, and they've always known how to dance.

I just utterly detest nightclubs. There are few things on earth that make me feel so detached from the entire human race.

-Or just ask different girls to dance different tunes and get comfortable with the action. Other girls start to notice you and... -Did you bring your swimming caps?

It really helps if you're three sheets to the wind, and if you can get past the noise, at least its somewhere to see eye-candy, even if you have little chance of catching anyone. (Though thats not impossible. about half my partners were met in nightclubs, and some turned into quite succesful relationships.)

I really don't get the point of nightclubs, does anybody else find that the really loud music, darkness, flashing lights and the cramped up/constantly moving mass of people actually makes the whole experience feel pretty anti-social? I can understand why so many people take pills to induce a better time to be had at such places! j/k

The same can be said for bars/pubs that play music too loudly, I mean, I don't mind background music, as long as it's possible to converse without having to shout, isn't the the main point of going out to find new friends or partners? why do people choose such difficult environments to satisfactorily achieve these goals?

I'm surprised anybody can have a conversation at all. I have a hard enough time making out what people are saying over the din (when I can concentrate enough to not have it give me a headache, anyway).

Thats where an unsocial social skill comes in. I learnt long ago that if you LOOK like you're listening, nodding and making agreement noises, chances are people will think you are listening. In a nightclub it works even better, because you can always ask em to repeat it again, and the next day claim you were so drunk you forgot what they were saying.

Nightclubs (depending on which ones, of course) can be fun--- for me, they're a place where you go that people assume "it's a social activity" but where you don't even have to speak to anyone at all if you don't want to. I like to dance, and I'll say hi to people i know. sometimes i might talk to someone ( if they want to hear about my Oldsmobile, anyway) but if I don't want to talk to someone I'll just look up and say "ooh, they're playing my favorite song--- i gotta dance" and then I'll leave. I do this sometimes because: I don't have anything to say to the person, or don't feel like being a people-person, or they're drunk and annoying.
I prefer gothic clubs--- the people are usually polite, I like the music and people don't do nasty things ( like grab your butt). Some nightclubs out there are awful, and if the awful ones ( I can think of a couple of hip-hop clubs) were the only clubs i would ever have experienced, I'd probably never want to go to another nightclub again.

Sounds like youve located the point. By learning anti-social skills, you prevail in a social situation. The "favourite song" ploy is an old favourite.. and can be supplemented with "oops i drank all my beer, need a new one" or "man i drank too much, i need to pee." (The beer ploy can also work as a friend earner, if you have the cash to buy other people drinks, because for some reason feeding NTs free beer is a surefire respect earner.

The type of club, as you say, is paramount. Some are way more irritating than others, with vastly more annoying punters. It does help if the club you choose plays something you like, and amongst certain genre crowds, there is a great deal less agression towards outsiders or the "odd". EG goths are the LAST people who can complain about someone acting odd or being different. (Or at least not if they have the slightest grasp of irony.) I also prefer goth/metal clubs by choice, though thats as much about the fact I happen to like girls in shiny black attire as anything else methinks. However, I've found that the people in these places are much less aggressive towards outsiders, and that the whole thing is way more relaxed than say..a drum and bass gig.