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18 Feb 2025, 1:33 pm

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What do you think babybird meant by "Not knowing his motives"?


You don't always know why they're overstepping your boundaries. It's hard to know what's going on in someone else's head, even harder for folks with ASD because of poor theory of mind.


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18 Feb 2025, 1:38 pm

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What do you mean his motives?


I mean that if a stranger was asking me about my finances I would be very wary of why they're interested

Have you asked him about his finances


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18 Feb 2025, 1:41 pm

Do you think people will respect I am volunteering for cancer research out of curiosity?



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18 Feb 2025, 1:45 pm

Is that the reason you do it


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18 Feb 2025, 1:46 pm

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Do you think people will respect I am volunteering for cancer research out of curiosity?


They might, but they might respect it less if they think you're doing it to brag about or win respect.


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18 Feb 2025, 1:49 pm

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I like the sound of this guy. Can you get him to join WP so we can all chat with him?



Why because he doesn't like me?


You never said he didn't like you. You said he was competitive.


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18 Feb 2025, 1:50 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Do you think people will respect I am volunteering for cancer research out of curiosity?


They might, but they might respect it less if they think you're doing it to brag about or win respect.



Doing it to win respect I hate to say



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18 Feb 2025, 1:51 pm

DuckHairback wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
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I like the sound of this guy. Can you get him to join WP so we can all chat with him?



Why because he doesn't like me?


You never said he didn't like you. You said he was competitive.



Why are some people so competitive?



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18 Feb 2025, 1:52 pm

Jamesy wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Do you think people will respect I am volunteering for cancer research out of curiosity?


They might, but they might respect it less if they think you're doing it to brag about or win respect.



Doing it to win respect I hate to say


Why do you hate to say it


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18 Feb 2025, 1:53 pm

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Why are some people so competitive?


It's just that some people like winning


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18 Feb 2025, 1:54 pm

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Why are some people so competitive?


All kinds of reasons. But low self-esteem probably accounts for a decent size chunk of it.


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18 Feb 2025, 1:55 pm

Because that should not be the reason why I want to do cancer research



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18 Feb 2025, 1:58 pm

But are you a kind person


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18 Feb 2025, 1:58 pm

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But are you a kind person



Why do you say that for?



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18 Feb 2025, 2:01 pm

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Doing it to win respect I hate to say


People notice when other people are desperate for approval or respect and that tends to undermine their ability to gain respect.


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18 Feb 2025, 2:03 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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But are you a kind person



Why do you say that for?


I'm asking you a question


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