What are you most criticized for?

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If I had to compile my list of negative traits, these would be my top 3...

1. lack of eye-contact (or staring blankly at people whilst not actually'seeing' them)
2. mumbling/ talking very quickly and inaudibly. and then getting even quieter when someone asks me to speak up...
3. Speaking 'patronisingly' to people, even when I know they're as/more intelligent than myself (but sometimes people act sooo dumb - especially girls (the 'ditzy blond' attitude is encouraged where I come from).

1. Being over-analytical
2. Speaking too quickly, mumbling, generally not enunciating
3. Intellectual arrogance; talking 'down' to people

People (bleep)ing criticize me for being too (bleep)ing misanthropic and angry. Well, (bleep) them!

not saying thank you when given compliments

not trying on clothes in stores and dislikes of going to malls

not getting that someone wants to be more than friends

not showing enthusiasm

my weird subjects with conversations and analyzing too much

answering certain jokes that weren't apparent that they were jokes seriously

Being extremely unsocial.

This is how it works. You're discussing something rather intellectual with her, you're treating her like an equal. However, you lose her with a couple of the $2 words. She feels stupid and then blames you for it. She decides you were competing with her. Who knows, maybe she was trying to sound smart and getting competitive?

I get accused of this in my own illiterate family and I, in turn, accuse my husband of this when I'm feeling insecure. Hopefully, I remember that he is not talking down but is treating my like an equal when he gets like that. He has learned to speak appropriately to people who aren't so smart. So, I know better but sometimes insecurity makes me paranoid. I guarantee you that's her problem.

DITTO!! ! XD

There's especially one person who considers it showing off everytime I try to bring something 'deep' into the conversation, and this has catched many others around. An example being from few days ago when our 'socal circle' at school ended up talking about the style of a certain musical group. There had been some comments with responses along the lines "yeah", but the moment I bring up my opinion, this person immediately replies that I'm showing off and am I thinking I know better than her, her having listened to them way longer.

The weird thing is that I was basically along the same lines as her.

I'm also considered dumb due to my way to keeping myself and only speaking up occasionally when it's relevant to my interests or simply amusing enough.

These too, except I rarely knowingly am trying to be arrogant towards the others. They interpret it wrongly.

Too quiet, stubborn, not trying things, not doing girly things like putting on makeup or making an effort to look nice, not saying hello or thank you. The last three I get a lot from my grandma.

A lack of social interaction with anyone. It becomes a bit obvious after a while.

Just not talking to people you know for a while puts you in a world of hurt. They often think you think you are better than them, or unkind etc. But i always come back and say hello, and then i usually catch wind of what they say about me when i am not around. Good friends, eh?

I tend to be too stubborn when doing things. I have to make them exactly right. It's not governmental standards or anything, I just have to do them "the right way".

This has been a "What, did HE do this?" experience for a lot of people including my parents.

Maybe to add to the previous post I've done the wiring in the kitchen of my ex and the electrician just said "I'm done, It's super" after catching a glimpse. Same way with the boiler room where I've been mocking around with electricity. Since I'm not a certified electrician. Also I've been gratituded with the construction of the shelter above the cellar stairs outside, since it didn't even make a noise when lifting out the old boiler (shifting to central heating) and they used the railings(?) (the stuff that prevents you from falling over) to lift the old boiler out and it's a free standing construction calculated for 2,5m of snow.

Last edited by SweXtal on 02 Dec 2007, 6:54 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Being too shy, and being neglectful of mundane things.

This isn't to say that I get sharply criticized for these things, but I get told about this behaviour quite often:

1. I start talking to people when I think it's my turn to talk, and then they tell me to please be quiet - I'm talking!

2. I can't read body language that says "I'm busy and I can't talk", and this unfortunately applies to many big bosses at work as well! I get a bit "pally" with them too, although I'm sure you can all understand that I feel that there's nothing wrong with that, as long as I just show respect. I'm like this with my supervisor's boss, and she has to gently say "Roy, I'm busy right now and I can't talk." She knows I have AS. Problem is, I don't like to enter her office too often because then I think I'm getting on her nerves!

Anyway, that's my 5c worth.

And just to add something else to what I said above, I also don't understand lines-of-command at work. My supervisor told me she would go herself to her boss to sort out an issue I had, but then later, unbeknown to my supervisor, I went direct to her boss to do a follow-up.

I get told by my supervisor that I do a lot of this kind of thing to her! I "jump the ranks" so to speak. Like a soldier going straight past his captain to speak directly to the lieutenant!