Surviving social occassions (relatively) sober

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one understanding good friend is my answer although i must admit i still feel more sociable once intoxicated, if my friend is un avalible i tend to avoid social situations where poss or act as nt as i can to get through, i dont know any other aspergers people in real life only on the net, you have to try different approaches out untill you find one that suits you best, there probably be some disasters but eventuaaly you will find a way you are comftanle with

It sucks but its not your fault, i thought it was my fault for the longest time for the way i acted in social situations doctors put me on aphetamines (dexedrine) because then they said i had add/hd when i was 17 made me a little sociable and people didnt think i was as weird as the told me but now im 23 and got diagnosed with aspergers when i just turned 22 and now they give me adderall and risperdal my social improvment only lasted for about a year till i was 18 then i got amuned to the drugs and all they do know is help me focus and keep my agression and anxiety down but im still anti social as ever. The only way i can be social now is if i am drunk i would never met my girlfreind if i wasnt drunk at the time. If your on meds you shouldnt drink on them its bad i dont. For my gf its hard to bring me places with her freinds cuz i dont say anything or look at them in the eye she says and family dinners with her family she says are a disaster cuz im me being me and even if i get drunk at them i tend to act more (autistic) because i dont take my meds when i drink so i guess i blurt out things. All getting drunk does for me in those situations is make the situation more enjoyable for me but it doesnt make it any better or me any better or make me act any better. If we go out to a bar or somewere i try and bring someone you feel safe around. I have 1 freind who is obsessed with the same stuff i am and he is NT as you would say and i can talk to him and look him in the eye and not be nervous because he has no problem talking about the stuff i wanna talk about so and it takes the pressure off my gf because im not just sitting around and not saying anything because i have someone to talk too. So mabey try that i know you cant bring a freind that you can communicate with everytime in a social situation but it makes it less boring. and makes you less boring because your talking to someone.

i've solved the problem by going "cute" at things like these. i smile shyly...i AM shy, so it's easy and lift my eyebrows just a little so it's not noticeable but it still chanches something in your looks. you have to talk, too. and ask questions about what the other person is saying.
i don't enjoy things like social gatherings but i manage.

observe people. what's their posture, expressions etc like when they do something.
notice both details and the big picture. for example when people lift their eyebrows then look how high, wich part, for how long etc etc
tone of voice. if your voice is monotone you have to knowingly make it sound more interesting and yet not fake.

that's how i've managed to fit into different groups. i don't neccecarily enjoy it but i might need it for school, work etc.

with friends, however i can be just as odd as i am

good luck with your gatherings