Why can't I have friends?

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I don't think my nanna would understand...

My brother is 13, and he's in year 9.

bugger....

Does your brother go out sometimes?
Can you go with him?

I feel for you.. I am in the same place. i have no friends but my brother does. he has a very social life. him and his wife go everywhere but refuse to take me with them anywhere.

It gets lonely.

I've learned that having a defeatist attitude towards everything really got me no where. All you can do is think positive and try to make it through school, or else it will bite you in the ass the rest of your life.

There are alot of people out there who excessively play video games, it shouldn't be hard to find someone else who does. = =

School is really the only place where you are almost 100% guaranteed to find a friend. If you see no point in going back to school, then that's an issue in many ways. Couldn't you try to get into a different public school? Or really talk things over with the one you're "not allowed" to go to? I have a strong personality and I get in trouble a lot but my (very strict) school has never flat-out told me I couldn't go there. If you haven't been officially expelled for a safety or security reason, what is being done to you is unfair and probably discriminatory.

If you really can't find your way into a public school, then there are bound to be some organizations of people around who share your interests, or local teen community centers. Just search around for places like that and there'll be someplace you wind up having at least one friend.

There's only one public high school here.

make a list of all the places you can go and do things and just hang out,
list them in order of what sounds to be the most interesting to you to the least,
then start going to them not to meet others really,
but instead just to enjoy your self,
if you go to meet others and fail then you will eventually give up,
go for your self instead and enjoy what you find your self doing,
eventually someone will come along and join in.

as for me, right now I am sick of people,
I had rather be at home spending time with my child,
to me most people seem to be hypocrites, judgemental, selfish, inconsiderate, vain.

I can't go anywhere though...

I know how people think they want friends and stuff, but trust me on this, as soon as you give up the idea about caring about having friends, it makes your life a whole lot better. No matter what some NT (or even other aspies) says, people don't' really need friends at all. The real reason you need them in school is to get through it. If you don't have to have contact with other people, so much the better. You could live like a hermit for years.

If you are unhappy that you don't have friends, I'd say that having friends is probably important to you. Maybe Tiamaat is wired to not need friends, and maybe I'm jealous.

From the tone of your posts, it sounds to me like you're sliding into the deep pit sometimes named despair, and sometimes named "couch potato". You could end up regretting that for the rest of your life.

"and then one day you find ten years have got behind you" - Pink Floyd/DSotM

Best is if you can find some way to get out of the house.

If you can't, the massively multiplayer RPGs are better than nothing. You can make mistakes there relatively safely.

Maybe you don't really want frinds?

It is tough to make friends when you have AS. I am glad I have some good friends, but I still have a very small social circle, and don't know many people. I think if you have AS, no matter what you do, you won't have the same results as NT people, but you can still make some friends, improve your social skills, get a gf/bf etc. Just don't set the bar too high and want to be the exact same as extroverted NT people you see, because you probably never will.

There's actually only one place I can go to be social, but it's only ever on every month or so. And, I'd be the only girl going to it.

You want me to be funny and try to guess what it is?

If it's something personal I apologize.

It's this place called Community Lifestyles. They help people with various disabilities meet people, among other things. And since AS is classed as a disability here, I can go to it. I was supposed to go some time last year, but I wasn't organized and missed out. I'm sure the people who go to it have AS too, and they're all guys. I tend to get along better with guys than I do with girls.

I hear that a lot, girls that get along better with guys and vice versa. It might be the same reason people are nice to tourists different culture, more acceptance .

Theres a Disabled Artists group I wanted to voulenteer for but I make a honest evaluation of myself and I think right now I'd be better as a participant. But I'm worried because I have a degree in art and don't LOOK disabled. Good old invisible handicap AS!

So whats one of your meetings like? Why are they so far apart?