Saying someone's name, or mentioning it.

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Me too!

I have the same problem. I can't remember many people's names.

Yes, I do this as well and people seem to get quasi mad and think that I don't remember their names (when I do). I just don't like relying on names that much. I had a lab partner that I did not call by her first name and she injected it into dialogue (as in: "and my friend 'Sally Sue' told me (insert her first name) you should quit your job") incase I didn't remember.

You should have seen me when for a year I knew and saw three people almost daily whose names started with the same letter and sounded similar. Each time I would see one person, I would think to myself 'that's not (the other two names)'. To complicate matters, if another person with a name starting with the same letter entered the room, I would think she is not (the other two names) - at which point I would have figured out the first person's name and short term memory willing the second person's name. It's quite scandalous I tell you.

I have a problem with both mine and other people's.

Someone will introduce themselves by saying, "Hi, I'm Max". (for instance.)
And I will say, "Hello". I will not even think of saying my name until they ask for it. My name sounds and feels awkward to say, to me.
I don't really say other people's names. It doesn't occur to me and so I have trouble remembering. Someone has said, "You've known me all this time and you don't know my name?".
If I like the sound of someone's name, I will have no trouble with it and may even say it too much!

Or in some cases: "You've known us all this time and you don't know any of our names?"

This thread is scaring me.

I often feel disturbed when a person refers to me by name. And I rarely ever refer to other people by their names, even people I know very well.

I feel disconnected from my name...I find myself cringing slightly when I say or see it.

I'm also horrible at remembering people's name, and rarely refer to people's names in conversations. I know others would appreciate being called their name now and again but I can't seem to be able to do it. Also, I tend to remember lots of miscellaneous information about a person...but not their name

For instance, I would say to someone: "The girl with dark, shoulder-length hair, blue eyes and pale skin who was in Indonesia last year, is close friends with her Indonesia foster family, wants to go back there to teach English, rather confident way of speaking, wore a blue cardigan once...what was her name?"

I used to feel that way, but now I've grown used to it.

I don't mind seeing my name in print, as long as it's spelled correctly. I don't like hearing my name because I can't stand the way most people pronounce it. It annoys me and I don't even know why.

My name is not misspelled a lot, only to be mispronounced a ton. My last name is pronounced like a regular Spanish word (stressed at the penultimate, since the word ends in a vowel). But... some pronounce it as if it were a French surname. Also others tend to reverse a couple letters to make it a more popular Sp. surname.


I'm better at metioning names of people I know well when....

They called the house,
They dropped by the house.
I bumped into one of them.

But I still can't say their own name to them directly.

My name is not misspelled a lot, only to be mispronounced a ton. My last name is pronounced like a regular Spanish word (stressed at the penultimate, since the word ends in a vowel). But... some pronounce it as if it were a French surname, by stressing it end the end with a long open sound. Also others tend to reverse a couple letters to make it a more popular Sp. surname.


I'm better at metioning names of people I know well when....

They called the house,
They dropped by the house.
I bumped into one of them.

But I still can't say their own name to them directly.

My full first name (Michael) is misspelled a lot, as surprising as that may seem for such a common name. It's become a bit of a pet peeve when people spell it as "Micheal".

I used to find it very difficult to call people by their names, but I've gotten more used to it now.

People misspell and mispronounce my name all the time...

When I was ten, my step-father's grandmother and aunt used to baby-sit me and even then, I didn't know their names until I was an adult. I've never been good at names. It could be people I've known for years or those I just met, it doesn't matter. There was many a college class where I didn't learn the name of the instructor the whole semester and at work, I'm lucky if I know 10 out of 200 co-workers by name. And family reunions? You can forget it. Yet everyone seems to remember (and mispronounce) my name.

People ask me how my last names spelled all the time. I dont know why because I think people should ask me how to spell my first name. One time a computer got my name wrong.

It's a strange habit I have too. I don't think it is an autism or aspie thing though. It is believed by many that people subliminally enjoy hearing their name when they are spoken to. My first source on that info was a Dale Carnegie book "How To Win Friends And Influence People".

I gave alot of thought to that concept and went searching for other sources on info. All in all, it really does appear as though people prefer to have their names mentioned when addressing them.

So in the past few years, I have been trying to do it more often and it feels less wierd now. As for why it felt wierd in the first place...who knows..