Being rude by accident

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i wouldnt even worry about it. when my cousin was here awile back we went to sedona, and it was fun but i soon got tired of it because all they wanted to do was go into stores and look at things. i only go into stores if i have money, and hate going into them just to have a look around so apparently i was being rude but i didnt think so

This site can be frustrating as hell. I don't always get the email notices when the thread is still being discussed and this is one of them

What woman are expected to be. Now that one pisses me off and I don't give a damn if you're aspie or not. Do what you can to be you, screw em, if you don't it will weigh very heavily on you later, if it isn't already and it appears to be. But yeah you are correct, I just happen to be in a spot where I don't and am not concerned with that s**t anymore. Not that I did much before. I get a sadistic glee out of mixing fashion that I know damn well shouldn't be, just to see the shocked looks on their faces. I like to watch people. Get inventive with what you try, be as comfortable as you can.

By diet I really meant look around and see what others have noticed in what they eat and don't and why. Caffeine can really get my brain race revved up and I know it. I love coffee, nectar of the gods. Screw with my wife, kick my dog and chase my cat, but mess with my coffee and I'll guarantee you a world'o'hurt.

I think it really important to be who you really are inside. It doesn't really matter the labels for it, it only matters to me if something pops up that makes being who I am get in the way. Anxiety is one, so I work on it, with a little chemical help.

Gender roles are an idiotic construct. I'd sooner die than be all the things men are "expected" to be.

In my house I have several dry erase boards....on them I put notes for my 8 year old Aspie...The one in the bathroon behind the door says...Did you use soap?? did you brush your teeth?? Are all you buttons straight and done? the one in the Kitchen says things like ..Use your drinking cup all day. did you put the milk back... These keep me from having to say the same things all the time and it keep her from forgetting or thinking that I am reminding her too much.......
I have one on the door that leads outside...It is a quote from Beau Brummell.......It says..." A tidy and well dressed figure is a gift that you give yourself. It tells the world that you care about yourself enough to look your best. This by extention tells the world that you care about other things as well." These small reminders help my Aspie with those little things that NT folks think are slovenly or sloppy.

Go for things that are easy to match and take care of . make a morning routine that has as few steps as possible to get where you need to be..pick a hairstyle that you like and that is not very fussy or hard to maintain........make sure that you smell clean and fresh...

I I know for her is it hard to keep track of things and chores and hygeine seem to be things that get lost in the mental shuffle......

I don't want to get into gender roles too much since that isn't the main topic of the thread. However, I have no interest in trying to imitate the role that people expect of me as female either. I'm ok with being nontraditional.

My concerns are more about practical consequences than authenticity. To be exact:
If I said exactly what I think, the consequences at work would be pretty bad.
I don't like walking out the door without being at least sort of clean and put together. I know some people who don't shower and don't care what other people think about it, but I'm not like that.
Two people have considered cutting me off as a friend because I'm late so often. I suppose I could just say that's their problem, but I'm not sure that's the approach I want to take.
An NT person I live with has been complaining for two years about my not cleaning the house. If I don't make any improvements, things will deteriorate. Once again, I could say that's not my problem, but I think that would be a bad move.

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Thanks for the dry erase board idea. That's pretty good. Notes are about the only thing I consistently notice without being distracted.