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26 Feb 2008, 4:09 pm

AndersTheAspie wrote:

How best to tell depends on the friend obviously, not two people are the same, and so a canned explaination just wont cut it.

I told my best friend (Whom I have known since age 6) shortly after I found out myself. "Do you know what Aspergers' syndrom is?" I asked him, and it just went from there.
I explained the symptoms. He probably realised where I was going, when I started listing parts of my own personality, because he said "Do you have this?" and I said yeah I did.

It was the happiest moment of my life when I found out that he had researched it throughly after our conversation. Nothing has changed in our relationship though, although I suppose he now has a way of explaining me to his parents :lol:

That's a good way to start off. I shall keep that in mind, thank you. I'm glad you were so happy with the result (of telling your friend). I hope you still get on with him well (I'm sure you do because you posted this very recently! :lol:

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26 Feb 2008, 4:11 pm

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Well I just infact told one tonight.I dont have a problem with people knowing but as long as they'll be accepting. Many times I just fall into that situation where it'll come to me telling them. Often its to explain things. I'll tell them if I know well enough that they'll be accepting. Often times Ive used it as more of an explanation for whats going on with me. Often I want people to have a better understanding of whats happening.

If there your real friends, they should be accepting towards you telling them this.

You seem pretty relaxed about it. I'm pretty relaxed about it too, but I just wanted to read how everybody else feels (well - not everybody else or otherwise there'd be 17 000 or whatever posts if that was so! :lol:

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26 Feb 2008, 4:12 pm

Thank you for replying to my discussion, you have all given me some good ideas. Would any of you like to pm me?

Thanks, mightyzebra

P.S This is my 600th post.

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26 Feb 2008, 10:45 pm

I told my ex-best friend over im.

She knew about it (she somehow manages to be really smart and really popular). She is totally accepting and doesn't care at all. (I wonder why I was friends with her.... )

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26 Feb 2008, 11:23 pm

I can't wait to tell everyone I know! "Hey, there's a reason for my quirks, so there!" (Of course nearly everyone I know has issues of some sort or another, so it'll probably be not that big a deal - seriously, I'm practically the only one not on meds.)

Of course, that means I actually have to TALK to them. Bleagh.

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26 Feb 2008, 11:35 pm

I did, once. He made fun of it and called it "assburgers" all the time.

He eventually decided I wasn't worth his time.

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28 Feb 2008, 1:47 am

it came up wen my m8 sed he had it and i sed that i do too

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28 Feb 2008, 2:08 pm

i tell my NT friends like how it may affect me so that they know if i do anything bad theyl know why

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01 Mar 2008, 5:48 am

886 wrote:

I did, once. He made fun of it and called it "assburgers" all the time.

He eventually decided I wasn't worth his time.

Oh, I'm really sorry. I know I've never used bad language, but he is a right g*t!

People like that ought to be shot on sight.

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01 Mar 2008, 5:49 am

Aoife wrote:

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When you say she doesn't care at all, do you mean she doesn't like you anymore?

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01 Mar 2008, 5:50 am

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it came up wen my m8 sed he had it and i sed that i do too

Wow

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01 Mar 2008, 5:51 am

dragonboy wrote:

i tell my NT friends like how it may affect me so that they know if i do anything bad theyl know why

Good idea.

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01 Mar 2008, 6:36 am

My best friend is very NT. I just blurted it out like I do everything, and after questioning a bit, they seem to have accepted it.

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01 Mar 2008, 8:31 am

almost all my real life friends are NT so its best they know how AS can affect me and anyway i wouldnt be friends with someone who couldnt accept who i am, im an aspie and proud

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01 Mar 2008, 10:17 am

886 wrote:

I did, once. He made fun of it and called it "assburgers" all the time.

He eventually decided I wasn't worth his time.

And people think we are strange and ret*d!

I haven´t told many about my AS. I told one person. He is actually a rather annoying person, but he took it very well.

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01 Mar 2008, 11:26 am

I have plenty of them and they just treated my like I'm everyday ordinary type of person.

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