Have you always felt left out of everything?

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Frequently... though now I seem to be more irritated with not being listened to or being misunderstood.

I remember a time clearly when I was 5 or 6 when I was set with two children my age, with whom I got along with good individually - yet with the three of us together, they went off and played as I watched through the window. It is a memory that gets triggered often.


M.

Meh, too feel left out is one thing. But to actually be left out is a whole nother deal all together. Do people actually leave you out? As in close off circles and literally invite everyone but you to events?

In highschool especially it is all about clicks. Me personally I was never in any clicks. My best friend would never invite me to hang with his friends but would always hang wih me one on one. I was a weird kid and now understand why he did this ... a lot of people at my school thought I was weird. And why was I weird? the AS makes you think different and makes it much harder to not take things so literally and all that jazz ... but none the less I pressed on. If you feel left out then you should ask yourself why ... and then eventually when you learn to become more mooch like and invite yourself over to "friends" houses and eat their food etc. etc. etc. you'll start understanding how community and social atmospheres work ... alway remember it is a constant challenge for you to overcome ... never let it get you down ... take it from me 22 and still learning things but never once have I looked back and felt sad ... I had no friends at some times and then I picked up a book or video game ... I had many friends at one point and learned the lesson of back stabbing and crazy drama bs ... I have done so many things and keep on going ... you can too. Learn my lessons now and you will have a 5 year head start on me

-KarlEdward

it happens all the time whenever me and my boyfriend are out at places and he invites a bunch of his friends to come along./.. though he has some REALLY assholeish friends, and most of them are guys who view females as objects so they ignore me and dont let me get a word in edgewise. and then my boyfriend stops paying attention to me cause hes kind of a sheep and follows what any of his friends do, so hell follow what they say more than what i say/do :/ then it gets to the point where i feel if i just left completely, no one would notice (and i have done so before) sometimes even when hes not brought along his assholeish friends i feel left out, like in a particular incident when me, him, and one of our close friends were at a store in the mall, it was a bit crowded and i was trying to speak to our friend. its kind of hard to explain, but she was a little ways away from me down a kind of 'hallway' made of small shelves, and as i was about to ask her something, my boyfriend steps in front of me, right between me and her, and completely blocks me from being ina position in which to talk to her (cause i honestly dont feel like peaking my head over my boyfriends shoulders to be able to talk to her) and it made me feel like i had been completely ignored and excluded :/ and he got mad at me for complaining about it too... its kind of like how some people will speak to each other in circles, like a large group of people will stand next to each other while talking and itll eventually form a circle, and sometimes space runs out and people still try to squeeze in and then you get squeezed out of the circle. its kind of like being kicked out of a house and then trying to look into the windows to see whats going on :/ its even worse when no one notices...

thats precisely what happened to me and two of the first friends i made when i moved to lexington from louisville. but instead of just cancelling me out, they noticed that they had excluded me and then we had the discussion that we dont work well in groups of threes. they kind of act like parents now, they get me food and stuff during lunch at school XD one of them, Kassi, even took me downtown on my birthday, without the other one, Joccey (though joccey WAS invited) and we did well like that. some people dont do well in threes, but more in one-on-ones, and ive realized that the hard way :/

You are fortunate... they never realized. It happens still, although I don't think my life is terribly affected by it - if anything it is that I am not being considered worthy (is fear inside) but often the result of those knowing me, knowing that I won't be comfortable in a place or setting. Nowadays, those I am close to manage to keep me plenty busy.


M.

same here,

I went to the EAP counselor at work (employee assistance program) and tried to explain to him how I feel left out from my co-workers, when for instance they all would order pizza (probably far too frequently) and exclude me. It seemed deliberate. The guy actually laughed at this. Thanks, EAP jerk.
On the plus side, though, after I asked like ten different times, now they finally include me on the pizza-ordering. Persistence paid off, I guess.

i didn't notice it until now

that im older

maybe im contented to be alone wayback in childhood

but now its different

With most people, I don't feel I am percieved as an equal. Sometimes it may just be self-conciousness, sometimes it may be what I'm doing. But sometimes not. I just feel very disconnected from my peers, my few and complicated "friendships", and even some of my relatives.

I've always felt left out, I thought it was all in my head, then I realized it was all in my head. Now I'm still left out, but I don't try to be a part anymore. Now what I do is just talk to people at my work and go home to my dogs afterwards and enjoy being alone. It's funny how I can pick up on the body language of dog's effortlessly but when it comes to deciphering the nonverbal behavior of people, I'm clueless and often embarass myself really bad. Some days seem to be far worse than others.

There's a secret rule that no one wants to admit.
It's about the pecking order.
The butt-kissing rule is fairly well known. You have to shut up and take it.
The second rule is that you must pass it on.
The only way to hold your place in the pecking order is to abuse the people below you.

If you've been in the poker game for 30 minutes and still don't know who's the patsy, you're the patsy.

I have always felt leftout my entire life even though I have a twin brother who I try to hang out with him and his friends.

When I was very young I was pretty much excluded from everything. If I wasn't back then, and it's the same now, I'm only invited because I'm the extra friend to fill an empty space or to bring a present. Right now I only have three online friends and one RL friend, and I can't say I'm sorry about it.