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Juzlie
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25 Feb 2009, 4:37 pm

relohi wrote:
Funny
Smart
Unique
Talented
Fun to be around
Genuine
Sincere
Honest
Excellent work ethic
Fair
Loyal
Trustworthy
Sometimes confusing


But hey, that's just this NT's opinion :D


I agree with this above as the guys I know are great. I must admit though, sometimes they are unintentionally funny (mostly with facial expressions) but I always explain why and they understand, it's never malicious/mean in anyway.

eg: I gave Ben a mint, and warned him beforehand it was a hot one, he took in and put it in his mouth and I watched him, about 3 seconds later he slightly opened his mouth and his eyes seemed to bug out, and he looked at me and gave a massive exhale. And said "Eugh, thats hot!" I said I told you, and I laughed, he asked me why, and I said it was just the look on his face like a startled cat. (He has a thing with cats) and he laughed with me once he got over the mints strength.

This sort of thing happens with anyone NT, Aspie or otherwise, which is how I treat anyone I know.

I would also add 'tiring', as its sometimes hard to get them away from an off-topic conversation and focusing on immediate needs. But I have plenty of patience and understanding, so its not to worrying!

I think it links with this though --->

Rocky wrote:
It depends on the NT, but I think for most, it would be......

Puzzling.

Most people are not familiar with ASD.


Because a mass amount of people don't understand ASDs they automatically go "Er, whats this about?!" and maybe if they are more intune or polite will they take the time to wonder what the person is about.

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25 Feb 2009, 4:44 pm

I got a bit fed up of the negative descriptions a few years back and starting talking about myself as a geek (this is before I thought I had AS). I've felt a lot better for it and if someone is about to be rude to you for being odd, they don't have geek as a weapon anymore.

I think most of my really negative experiences are from my childhood interactions with NTs, rather than as an adult with NTs.



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02 Mar 2009, 5:31 pm

I'm NT, and there is one girl in our school with asperger's. Now, I know this everyone, but she is pretty much the joke of the grade. She is condescending, downright cruel/mean, and a tattletale. I just found out she is an aspie, so I feel I understand her a little better, but if people don't know, the impression is very bad.



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21 Mar 2009, 3:38 pm

Space wrote:
I have had people describe me as
crazy
socially awkward


I get this impression from people imediately when they see me



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21 Mar 2009, 8:56 pm

My close friends happen to know another guy with AS, and he was diagnosed with it a lot earlier than I was. From what they tell me, we're like night and day. The only constants they seem to notice-

-Talkative
-Obsessive
-Extreme attention to detail
-Sensitivity
-Physical sensitivity
-Emotional
-Bad at romance
-Dependent
-Lonely

They used to think it meant all kinds of other things just because they only knew one other guy with it. I think a lot of neurotypicals judge all of us like this. Hardly efficient, and certainly not rational. I wonder if they can take some kind of medication for that :wink:



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22 Mar 2009, 4:44 am

I've been trying my utmost to survive in a military environment for almost the past two years with 2 months to go, but recently, a senior NCO has been bullying me a ton and caused me to emotionally break down in front of my mates.

Tried to explain my circumstances to my Commanding Officer, but I think it has backfired because the commanders are now treating me with kid gloves. :\ This isn't what I want, I just wanted that senior NCO to get off my case, and wanted to try to be treated equally like the rest of the NTs.

*shrug*



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23 Mar 2009, 9:06 pm

Verbose (talks too much)
Self-centered (unintentionally, and not the same as selfish)
Generous
Kind
Funny
Sweet
Sensitive
Confused
Often Overwhelmed
Shamelessly Self-Gratifying
Odd
Affectionate
Overly Attached
Pragmatic (doing what works) in some very inappropriate ways
Loves Animals
Fascinated by parts and mechanistic functions
Open
Brilliant
Primitive
Fascinating


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24 Mar 2009, 11:56 pm

It's my general impression that most people think I'm a psychopath. That or somebody who's really stupid. I'm also pretty much a gigantic walking joke at school. I have no idea what I've done, but everyone seems to find me extremely amusing.

I don't react even when they throw things at me unless it gets repetitive. In that case I just beat them up to make them stop. I'm actually one of the strongest people in my grade even though I don't look like it. XD

It's because they'd rather focus on my odd mannerisms and reactions instead of getting to know me I guess. I don't care. I'll be the one to come out ahead in the end.


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25 Mar 2009, 2:52 am

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I've been described as "caustic". that's actually how i learned about the word. I'm like, caustic? what the *** does that mean?


I think by caustic they are saying cruel. Like our tendency to be overly blunt to the point of harshness. Or in other words we are too honest and do not hold back what we feel. Or in the case of trying to appear humorous we try to mimic someone else's humor and we do it wrong and end up hurting others feelings when we thought people would take it as funny.



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25 Mar 2009, 10:35 am

In my case, it was/is "arrogant", "intimidating", "threatening", "aggressive", "dominant", "obsessed".



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25 Mar 2009, 11:10 am

Weird, childlike, nervous...I really have a hard time telling what they think.



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25 Mar 2009, 11:13 am

relohi wrote:
Nutterbug wrote:
relohi wrote:
Funny
Smart
Unique
Talented
Fun to be around
Genuine
Sincere
Honest
Excellent work ethic
Fair
Loyal
Trustworthy
Sometimes confusing


But hey, that's just this NT's opinion :D


May I question your motive for hanging around in these parts? :)


You certainly may :) My son was recently diagnosed with AS and I am trying to find out as much as I can about it and how people think who have it. My main concern is his ability to socialize as that has been becoming increasingly a problem.

This thread caught my eye. I feel badly about what I have been reading and awful that these are the perceptions/experiences of people with AS about people without AS. I can't say surprised because even though my son is 9, he is often mistreated and I am not sure he even knows it half the time. I see it when other kids look at him and my heart breaks. I wanted to present the fact that there are people in the world who don't see people who think differently than them as "ret*d" or "dorky" (although there's NOTHING wrong with either of those things anyway). I see a million great things about people with this disorder and thought I would share it.

I meant well...sorry if it was unwanted!


please don't apologise! i think it's wonderful to see parents trying to understand their AS kids and how they think, and what their challenges might be. if only all of us were so lucky, b/c believe me, having open-minded, understanding parents makes a HUGE difference for us. the world can be a confusing, overwhelming, and sometimes hostile place for us--but as long as your son has your unconditional love and support, he'll be just fine no matter what challenges he faces. :)



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25 Mar 2009, 11:18 am

Zyborg wrote:
In my case, it was/is "arrogant", "intimidating", "threatening", "aggressive", "dominant", "obsessed".


i have a feeling a few people here might describe you in the same terms.....constantly spouting off about the superiority of people on the spectrum doesn't do much good in terms of people's opinion of you, either. this trend frightens me....i've seen it alot around here lately, the whole "we are the next super-race" argument, and i think words like "arrogant", "threatening", and "dominant" describe attitudes like that quite well--although i would add maybe two more qualifiers to that list....."ridiculous", and "self-aggrandising".



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25 Mar 2009, 2:30 pm

Well, in my case impressions of me are:

Quiet and sweet, shy, confident, lazy, hard worker, stubborn, intelligent, stupid, childish, mature, organised, messy.

About the only consent is 'odd' or 'weird'.


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26 Mar 2009, 2:26 am

One I didn't list before: clumsy.



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26 Mar 2009, 9:56 pm

In my case people usually seem to describe me:

Quiet
Shy
Weird
Creepy
Smart
Angry
Sad
Clumsy
Asocial
Intelligent