Were you the bully? Or the bullied?

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Plan on buying a long black hair wig? Yeah, it's a lame joke referring to the J-Horror film Ju-On. I refuse to acknowledge the American remake The Grudge, cause I don't really fancy Sarah Michelle Gellar.

I was first the bully and than the bullied - irony, or what?

I was bullied through all of elementary school, and the teachers didn't do anything about it. I resent them.

Bullied, lightly and not so often. I was a really passive kid, so it would have been quite hard for me to be a bully.

There was one very minor incident in elementary school, where one popular girl did various subtle things (most I did not notice except later in retrospect) to annoy me and lower my social status. I don't know why she would have wanted to lower my social status, because I had little or none because I interacted very rarely with my classmates. Later in middle school some idiot would hit me on the bus. In high school, another created some elaborate scheme to have someone smack me twice on different occasions. I dunno why, but it infuriated me. Later there was some shockingly overt sexual harassment, but it lasted only about a month (until I meltdowned ). I like to imagine the perpetrator suffering from bad lye poisoning.

It's when you're maladjusted to being a misfit that you're really a target. Without that, there's not much meat on you for a bully or a superior group.

I was lucky - changed schools a lot and finished with them early. By the time I got out I was a dedicated misfit.

I was bullied in graduate school! By the chair of the department (who had been convinced by my 'peers' that I was too weird or something)!

By that time, as a strapping 32 year old youth, I was able to muster the appropriate response:

"Either charge me with something real or I will seek legal counsel for harassment."

This, coupled with hitting her with a FOIA request for every document in her possession with my name on it (to which she initially balked, then, upon learning from the university attorney that, as a federally-funded state school, she had to comply, sent me a registered letter telling me she would), I dropped it. And so did she. A rare victory.

The joke now is she "signs" requests for donations as the graduate school dean; I get to ignore them as an alum.

I tried to gossip about a girl once, and it backfired terribly on me. Also, I once called a girl a b****. Mind you, she really hurt my feelings by spreading rumors about me, but still, I shouldn't have said it.
But usually I was the bullied, mostly with isolation, but there was some sexual harassment...
Now I'm good though. My high school rocks!

Its great to hear that Ebec. Haven't seen you around lately, it's good to know you're doing ok

Thanks, I've just been busy with other stuff lately.


I don't wish any bad thoughts like that to my own sexual harasser (did I spell it right?), mainly because I knew that she was going through group homes and stuff like that. I'm still reeling from the damage from what she did (it's one of the causes for my low self esteem), but I know that she needed to manipulate and hurt me to make herself feel better. And I know that she'll never feel better if she continues on that path, so I don't let her control me. Don't let yours control you either.

Never been bullied from elementary until now (college).
Maybe because I'm older than them.
There's problem on the first semester that make my bro become sick and cant continue his studies until now, they become paranoid/afraid me to take revenge (maybe too much see horror movies ) .

I was bullied. But bullied is to kind of a word, so I will put out the reality. I was psychologically, verbally, physically and sexually assaulted.

When it gets to rape and torture (the non-consensual kind) it ceases to be bullying, and becomes assault or worse. Probably why I don't have a high opinion of most children.

Thankfully this ended when I was fourteen. I guess some call went out in high school that I was to be protected.
I do not get bullied as an adult. But I still have some pretty deep scars, thankfully my partner helps me when I have issues.

I've bullied boys I'd like if they didn't like me back.
I was also bullied, but I am cyberbullied more because of my views.

I have always been bullied to varying degress. Although I have been the bully about twice because I wanted to seem "cool" and like everyone else.

I am a friend of a guy that bullied me during high school, actually he was my "friend" while he bullied me. He would randomly call me fat and I would get mad and answer him back, then he would react all surprised and ask why I get so angry. Once he got a metal scissor, he light it up with a lighter until it got really hot and made contact with my skin, I got mad as hell and started chasing him to beat the crap out of him, he still was acting surprised as of why I got so pissed off.