Feeling used by a female friend.

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I'm not sure if I should pick her up at the airport on tues. or letting her work something else out.

If I decide not to pick her up, should I let her know that before hand or should I leave her hanging? Just showing her the same respect she has shown me. After all I have AS, still not sure on the proper social thing to do.

if you already gave your word to pick her up then you probably have to respect this word.

But dump her forever after that ....

Last edited by LePetitPrince on 17 Jan 2009, 9:56 am, edited 1 time in total.

Tell her in advance that you cannot go and don't go. Then have as little to do with her as possible. She definitely seems to be just using you.

I already said I would go. But I feel if I see her again I will start to yell at her, ect.. Maybe not a good idea if I see her again.

Just tell her no because you have some other responsibilities that came up. If she asks what they are just tell her it is personal and that you will not discuss it with her and then never see or speak to her again. This way you are not lying.

Even if I do not pick her up I will have to see her again. She left a couple of things at my place she will defintaly want to get at some point.

True story there was a girl who I used to give lifts to badminton. Similar type situation, I decided that I would no longer go to badminton. I had decided in advance to go to a gym in a different sport centre so I was not dwelling on things.

When it was passed time she texted me asking I where I was. I said was not coming. She called up, we had a chat. I was reasonable I wanted to offer an explanation, but I told she wasn't interested in being my friend.

Yes there was some weird thing that happened during the time I knew her. On the one hand it was like she couldn't be seen with me, on the other she would do thing like spontaneously ask to go back to mine after playing tennis. I'm sure I weirded her out too. The was even a period of a month that I didn't say a word to her in badminton, yet somehow I ended up talking to her again.

I don't begrudge her any more. We just not the right type of people.

Just be civl. Say you aren't compatible as friends. Personally I would not say the she doesn't want to be your friend, unless you want a long conversation or something you do not want to hear anyway.

Then ofer to send her stuff. That's it.

You have to make a break or else you well get more an more torrmented.

But sending her stuff over requires I spend money on her. I don't want to spend anything on this women. IMO sending the stuff over would just make me look more of a push over in her eyes.

You are not being a pushover by sending her stuff. You are the one taking control by ending the relationship.

But she is not worth spending the money on to send her stuff. If I send her stuff over, I feel i'm doing her a favor by not making her put the effert in to get her stuff and spending money on someone that I feel totally does not deserve it.

Then you just send her a text or whatever saying that you are leaving her stuff on the front lawn at X time and date. if she wants it, come and get it. If not, I'm sure someone will pick it up

Don't do it, shes a user.

What I did once to someone who deserved it was phone his boss and tell him to tell the guy that if he didn't come pick his stuff that same day, I'd burn it. He came and took his stuff.

Yes but having it in your house you basically don't want to end things, becuase you are hoping she will come back.

She just called tonight. Right before I was going to text her and say to make other plans to get home. She said she was sorry for not calling me on wend. but this vacation has been one thing after another, and nothing good.

I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and pick her up.