How do you deal with being alone?

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I'm an introvert, so being alone is pretty much fine with me. My favorite activities are all ones I do by myself: reading, writing, listening to music, memorizing pi. Maybe reading a book or watching a movie would help distract you. Those things seem social to me in a way; I feel like I'm having something to do with people (even if they are fictional characters).

Bataar, wouldn't you like becoming a solo traveler in your area? I have lots of excitement and fun doing it. I bought a camera a year ago and I make these photographing tours on my own or join free walking tours. I've learned Photography since then, on my own from the web and then I got a subsidized course from work, and now I'm even thinking of developing an online business around this special interest. As an Aspie, I discover beautiful things that are under everyone's noses but they don't see them. If you go out with a firm purpose, you don't feel alone in your outings.

I used to think I had friends. I used to think that there were people at school I could trust. But it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. There had been several incidents where they had shown their true selves, and yet I was so desperate for companionship that I pretended to myself that I could let it go. It took a long period of depression to finally open my eyes; That it was better to be alone than to try and change myself to fit in with their ideas of what was normal.

I want to be loved, I wanted to have friends. I want to feel as though I am not disposible. But I don't want any of those things if it means that I need to lie and pretend to be accepted.

I survive by concentrating on my writing, my cats, my religion. I concentrate on learning spells, expanding my knowledge and working towards a brighter future. Because one day I will accept me for who I am, and until then there is nothing I can do by focus on what is currently surrounding me.

How do I deal with being alone? I am not really sure that I do deal with it...

Put in a post previously
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp2215804 ... t=#2215804
Basically:
"Had a dream last night that I became part of a group of the most loving caring friends anyone could ever have. They appreciated me for me, they understood all the things that I could not say, they loved me as equals, and they were never afraid to give or receive affection. Even when I had trouble fitting in, they would go out of their way to make me fit in, but never once was there any pity or false sympathy. One of them was even interested in something more than just friendship.
Then I had to wake up and come back to the real world where both of my two friends are in other parts of the world, and I am just another pity case trying to get by."

before that, I never really noticed the alone-ness in my life, but since then, I have been living day to day looking at everyone I see in terms of whether or not they are the companion that I need. What a sad individual I have become...

When I feel most alone, I find that listening to linkin park helps distract me for a few minutes.

Thanks to another forum poster, I went to a site called meetup.com and joined up with a meetup group for depression and bipolar in brisbane. Going to my first bbq with them this weekend. feeling very very nervous. Am also having my first meeting with a mental health support group tomorow. dont know how much will come of any of these, but the alternative is to sit at home and grieve for my dead social life.

I deal with it by watching TV, playing videogames and going on the computer; all activities that don't require any others to be involved with. I can deal with being alone because I'm so use to it. In all honestly I've been by myself for I'd say, a good 7 years now. Surely I get lonely but I just suck it up. My lack of ability to make friends will only keep my days of solitude going...

pharma kava while watching a korean drama is what I do.

Honestly I almost never feel lonely. I've always been very independent and have no trouble keeping myself busy. In many ways I prefer not being around people. It simplifies things a lot.

Dealt with solitude all my life. I don't have any friends but I like to keep things that way. I can't cope with the dramatic side of friendships. All I pretty much have is my fiance and a few friends I trust online. I like things this way. My day mostly consists of spending time with my woman, talking to a few friends online and listening to music and perhaps writing. I barely leave my house, ever. Unless It's to sunbathe and relax in the garden.

It's the only life I've ever known...

Sometimes I'm lonely. Sometimes I wish I had more friends. A lot of times I wish I had a significant other. A lot of times, I just feel like I want what everyone else has (and seems to get naturally without even trying really). Then I realize, maybe it's just social pressure, or the desire to be 'normal'... maybe I don't even want what everybody else has, I just feel like I want something that I feel incapable of having.

I have plenty of hobbies that can occupy my time. Watching the NHL, playing video games, reading books, playing on the internet, listening to music, exercising, working, etc.

Online Communities and just being quiet about my problems in life around people solved it all.

I can't say being alone really bothers me. Then again, at this stage of life, I've written off most people and social situations and accepted that being alone was a very likely outcome for my life.

I do desire contact and social interaction, but I have to balance the energy needed to make it a pleasant experience against the likelihood of coming away with something that makes me feel it was a worthwhile experience.

For me, the worse experience is to be "alone in a crowd." Surrounded by others interacting and having fun but feeling separated by a foot-thick force field. This is what normally happens when I go places to interact, and it's why I stopped making such an effort to go out and meet people.

I'm an introvert also, and I love being alone. I actually crave being alone for a while every day. When I get the house to myself, I'm just so happy, it's quiet, and I just feel good. I go online, watch TV, dance a little, sing when no one is listening, and just be myself, something I never really do while everyone is around me. It's important for me to be alone, to reflect on things, to think, to write, alone, without interruption. So it's good. lol.