I have absolutely no friends
Kuraudo777 wrote:
What do you mean by other things? Happy things make me happy and sad or bad things make me upset.
Things that make you happy and then going to extremely happy or things that make you sad and then going to extreme sad with no in between would be a sign of bipolar (I think). So, I was speaking of co-morbidities that may present that same reaction. That is what I meant by 'things.'Not the things that make you happy or sad. That I get.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
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RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
I didn't mean that I flip-flop between happy and sad on a whim. I meant that I can be extremely happy and then suddenly my mood will shift for whatever reason and I gradually become sad. Thankfully I'm not as depressed as i used to be.
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Kuraudo777 wrote:
I didn't mean that I flip-flop between happy and sad on a whim. I meant that I can be extremely happy and then suddenly my mood will shift for whatever reason and I gradually become sad. Thankfully I'm not as depressed as i used to be.
Thank you for clarifying for me. I am still learning a lot. But, yeah, what you describe above seems very normal to me. And, well, I am finding out I am not as normal as I thought...do don't know what that means LOL
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
Everyone is different and unique in their own way, so there is no normal.
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A memory is something that has to be consciously recalled, right? That's why sometimes it can be mistaken and a different thing. But it's different from a memory locked deep within your heart. Words aren't the only way to tell someone how you feel.” Tifa Lockheart, Final Fantasy VII
Kuraudo777 wrote:
Everyone is different and unique in their own way, so there is no normal.
That could be debatable just on the idea that the word 'normal' exists to describe a statistical average of some sort. This would not preclude individuality though on any level.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
kraftiekortie wrote:
I've never a person who, after knowing him/her a few weeks, doesn't have some "problem" or other. Some neurosis, some phobia, some oddity.
One of my favorite quotes is, "Everybody you meet has some secret problem you know nothing about."
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
zkydz wrote:
Things that make you happy and then going to extremely happy or things that make you sad and then going to extreme sad with no in between would be a sign of bipolar (I think).
Bipolar isn't just having mood swings. The periods of mania and the periods of depression last a long time, like a week or two.
TheAP wrote:
zkydz wrote:
Things that make you happy and then going to extremely happy or things that make you sad and then going to extreme sad with no in between would be a sign of bipolar (I think).
Bipolar isn't just having mood swings. The periods of mania and the periods of depression last a long time, like a week or two.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
zkydz wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
[Firstly I was not aware that you feel so strongly about your experiences. Perhaps you should make a reference to that in your signature so as to avoid confusion in future conversations with other forum members. I apologized for offending you, so there's no reason to go on about it.
As far as making friends go, I won't bore you with my personal issues. But I don't believe it has anything to do with insulting people. I've never had issues with that.
As far as making friends go, I won't bore you with my personal issues. But I don't believe it has anything to do with insulting people. I've never had issues with that.
I see that what we have here is what appears to be an Aspie thing happening here. That blindness of how others can see your actions.
1). You say you 'did not know' how I felt about my experiences. Uhhhh.....that should be obvious. Let me throw this back at you. Why would you ever think that someone else's experiences would not matter when it actually counters your arguments directly? And, by saying that a person is not their experience shows blindness as to how experience actually does make us. If you only go out at night doesn't mean there is no sun.
2) you did and are doing that apology/non-apology crap that's become quite popular. You apologize then still go on about how you're right.
3) Really don't give a damn about your personal issues. But, to say that you've never had any problem with insulting people when you are doing it is demonstrating the blindness itself.
Basically, you tried to take your experiences to justify casting your conclusions onto other people. But, when another experience shows differently, you say that experiences are not important. Kinda talking out both sides there.
And to say that one person's experience offers false hope is just ridiculous.
What I see is the blindness that I have become aware of in my life. You say you 'have no problems' in areas but have no friends. It can't be everybody else. You are the only common denominator. Basically the self-fulfilling prophesy I mentioned earlier.
The difference is that I opened a possibility while you have done everything to shut it down.
No, you're misinterpreting everything I'm trying to say. It's like we're talking different languages or something. Just... no. That's not at all what I've been trying to convey. It's all wrong. Stop being wrong. What the hell is this?
Sabreclaw wrote:
I don't see the problem here. From what Aristophanes said it sounds like the potential outcomes are clear:
1. You become overwhelmed with depression and die
2. You give up on friends entirely and make peace with yourself
Both of which have one thing in common - you still have no friends. So there's the solution, don't worry about friends and just wait things out until either one of the above pathways becomes reality.
I'm far too young to be jaded from experience, so I've been focusing my energy on forcing myself to go down pathway #2. My ultimate goal is to be completely emotionless one day. It's challenging to always maintain my composure, but it's far better than worrying about a social life that's just not possible.
There is no mistake about this. There is no misinterpretation. You see only those two options. I will not convince you otherwise.1. You become overwhelmed with depression and die
2. You give up on friends entirely and make peace with yourself
Both of which have one thing in common - you still have no friends. So there's the solution, don't worry about friends and just wait things out until either one of the above pathways becomes reality.
I'm far too young to be jaded from experience, so I've been focusing my energy on forcing myself to go down pathway #2. My ultimate goal is to be completely emotionless one day. It's challenging to always maintain my composure, but it's far better than worrying about a social life that's just not possible.
That's what the hell this is.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
zkydz wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
I don't see the problem here. From what Aristophanes said it sounds like the potential outcomes are clear:
1. You become overwhelmed with depression and die
2. You give up on friends entirely and make peace with yourself
Both of which have one thing in common - you still have no friends. So there's the solution, don't worry about friends and just wait things out until either one of the above pathways becomes reality.
I'm far too young to be jaded from experience, so I've been focusing my energy on forcing myself to go down pathway #2. My ultimate goal is to be completely emotionless one day. It's challenging to always maintain my composure, but it's far better than worrying about a social life that's just not possible.
There is no mistake about this. There is no misinterpretation. You see only those two options. I will not convince you otherwise.1. You become overwhelmed with depression and die
2. You give up on friends entirely and make peace with yourself
Both of which have one thing in common - you still have no friends. So there's the solution, don't worry about friends and just wait things out until either one of the above pathways becomes reality.
I'm far too young to be jaded from experience, so I've been focusing my energy on forcing myself to go down pathway #2. My ultimate goal is to be completely emotionless one day. It's challenging to always maintain my composure, but it's far better than worrying about a social life that's just not possible.
That's what the hell this is.
It's everything you're trying to argue with me about that sounds completely different to what I meant. I can't even understand half of what you're saying, it's like walking into a completely different conversation.
Kuraudo777 wrote:
When I feel things, I FEEL things. My emotions are raw and intense. So when I'm happy, I'm ecstatic. When I'm sad, I'm depressed.
I am the same way. I was told by a psychologist that getting emotional quickly and easily is not uncommon in ASD. I read that difficulties with regulating emotions is also common.
Sabreclaw wrote:
zkydz wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
I don't see the problem here. From what Aristophanes said it sounds like the potential outcomes are clear:
1. You become overwhelmed with depression and die
2. You give up on friends entirely and make peace with yourself
Both of which have one thing in common - you still have no friends. So there's the solution, don't worry about friends and just wait things out until either one of the above pathways becomes reality.
I'm far too young to be jaded from experience, so I've been focusing my energy on forcing myself to go down pathway #2. My ultimate goal is to be completely emotionless one day. It's challenging to always maintain my composure, but it's far better than worrying about a social life that's just not possible.
There is no mistake about this. There is no misinterpretation. You see only those two options. I will not convince you otherwise.1. You become overwhelmed with depression and die
2. You give up on friends entirely and make peace with yourself
Both of which have one thing in common - you still have no friends. So there's the solution, don't worry about friends and just wait things out until either one of the above pathways becomes reality.
I'm far too young to be jaded from experience, so I've been focusing my energy on forcing myself to go down pathway #2. My ultimate goal is to be completely emotionless one day. It's challenging to always maintain my composure, but it's far better than worrying about a social life that's just not possible.
That's what the hell this is.
It's everything you're trying to argue with me about that sounds completely different to what I meant. I can't even understand half of what you're saying, it's like walking into a completely different conversation.
It's your statements. I am not twisting or turning anything.
Not gonna entertain this anymore.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
^If it helps at all, he's confusing me too.
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Quote:
A memory is something that has to be consciously recalled, right? That's why sometimes it can be mistaken and a different thing. But it's different from a memory locked deep within your heart. Words aren't the only way to tell someone how you feel.” Tifa Lockheart, Final Fantasy VII
Kuraudo777 wrote:
^If it helps at all, he's confusing me too.
Oh thank goodness! LOLI did see where I dropped a word or two. Still working on my communication skills meself.....
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
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